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tangochef is offline tangochef Post #1  May 24,2011, 8:29pm
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Curious about something, here is a hypothetical.

Recently we had conversations about guys lying about their height, men/women lying about their age, marital status etc.

People were negative about those actions, rightly so.

So, you get a match, like the pictures, communicate and like that, and finally go on a date, and continue on from there.

Eventually, you are about to become intimate.

She takes off the Spanx, and the rolls of fat come and hit you in the face

Would you consider this lying?
 
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tangochef wrote :
Curious about something, here is a hypothetical.

Recently we had conversations about guys lying about their height, men/women lying about their age, marital status etc.

People were negative about those actions, rightly so.

So, you get a match, like the pictures, communicate and like that, and finally go on a date, and continue on from there.

Eventually, you are about to become intimate.

She takes off the Spanx, and the rolls of fat come and hit you in the face

Would you consider this lying?
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I think everyone wears items that make them look better. I wear certain length shirts, jeans, etc. to emphasize or underemphasis certain aspects of my body. It would be one thing if she said "I'm athletic and toned" and did this, vs "I need to lose a few pounds" and did this.

Same with guys and the shirts that hold them in.

Would you consider it lying if I had less than perky boobs but wore a bra (of the non-wonder variety) that made it appear they were situated more North than South?

I certainly am not going to wear clothing that highlights every roll I have. Nor would I wear a bra that doesn't support (or show off) my two best friends.
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AndieIsMe wrote :
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Would you consider it lying if I had less than perky boobs but wore a bra (of the non-wonder variety) that made it appear they were situated more North than South?
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I guess it would depend on what is important to the person. I really do not care about a woman's bust measurements (except really hate bad fake boobs where one can get hurt as they are so hard ). Plus, it is a given that most bras will have padding, or even the little silicone inserts.

However, if someone is passing themselves off as having a toned body, yes it would matter to me.
 
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Exactly the reason for my remarks about how she had described herself. If she says "I need to lose some weight" and wears Spanks, then you shouldn't be surprised. But, if she says "I'm a rock hard body athlete" then yeah, she's lying!

I know body type is subjective for the most part. But, there are a few things I think we can all agree on. And, having to wear any kind of "containment" garment means you are NOT athletic.
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I suppose it is lying by omission but do you really want someone to say that they wear Spanx and that rolls of love are going to spill out? I say it's her prerogative to contain her rolls and not to speak about them unless asked (which you shouldn't!). Now if she says she's Ms. Athlete and is a lean, toned, mean machine, and hides this sort of thing then it's keeping things rather hidden.

I myself am rather disappointed when men I meet from the internet have pictures from a few years prior, they describe themselves as fit/athletic, and then in meeting I realize their pictures are older, they've gained some serious weight, and their intake of food might equal the exercise they output therefore keeping them at the same weight. I wish they posted more current pictures and didn't describe themselves as uber athletic and fit. It is a bit deceiving and then leads to disappointment in person.
 
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I think you can expect people to try to present their most flattering image when they post pictures. So it is sort of a matter of degree when people don't live up to their photos. People's self image can also get in the way when they describe themselves. My guy (am I quite to the point where I can call him that??) described himself as athletic & toned. Well, he's not. I described myself as about average. I think that I am. Does he? I don't know, and I'm not going to ask him!
 
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What the heck is Spanx?

Also - I am not sure how to describe myself, except that I am NOT athletic.....however, many tell me I am slim/small yet I feel I am average to a few extra pounds. Not ever having had the guts to actually ask a guy (who would be unlikely to tell the truth, anyway LOL) how they would describe me, I tend to just say average. So, I wonder if a guy would see that as being misleading if he felt I was either *small/slim* or *a few pounds extra*?
 
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Actually, thin women and athletic women wear Spanx, too. It's not necessarily to "contain," but to present a smooth line under clingy fabrics or body-hugging styles (e.g., to avoid dreaded visible panty line). If you look at the Spanx size charts, they include women who are 5'3" and 95 pounds, which can hardly be considered "fat." Figuring out the right undergarments to wear under a particular piece of clothing is an ongoing challenge for women, no matter what they weigh or how "toned" they are.

If someone is so obsessed with a woman's weight that he'll recoil in horror at the mere thought that her stomach may not be as flat as it first appears, then I expect he has tuned into other ways to discern body fat (I suggest he take calipers with him and insist on using them at first meeting).
 
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If someone is so obsessed with a woman's weight that he'll recoil in horror at the mere thought that her stomach may not be as flat as it first appears, then I expect he has tuned into other ways to discern body fat (I suggest he take calipers with him and insist on using them at first meeting).
He could save himself the bother of meeting if he insisted on a full body nude photo (front and rear, just to make sure).
 
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