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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #21  May 25,2011, 6:11am
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tangochef wrote :
I guess it would depend on what is important to the person. I really do not care about a woman's bust measurements (except really hate bad fake boobs where one can get hurt as they are so hard ).
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getting hurt?? Implants are hard??
I don't know who told you that but that's not true at all.
 
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As Xable said, Spanx ain't magic.

I'm a medium and have worn Spanx under clingy dresses - I was the same size with and without, but my silhouette was smoother with.

Under anything but a clingy dress, I prefer to go without Spanx - I have a very nice waist to hip ratio and the Spanx smooth indiscriminately, making me look a little more rectangular.

A woman would have to be pretty unhealthy for Spanx to be considered a major illusion - she'd have to be slim through the rest of her body with a pot belly. With a healthy diet, a woman who is overweight is going to be heavier through the hips/chest - we're high estrogen and that's where more weight would accumulate.

For a woman to be slim everywhere else but have a large stomach she would have to have hormonal imbalances (menopausal women gain in the torso due to estrogen levels dipping and adrogens increasing, causing redistribution of fat) or be eating a very high sugar/white bread diet (causing blood sugar issues).
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Xable wrote :
Really interesting topic. In short, no, I do not think that a person (male or female) wearing flattering things and wanting to appear their best is lying.

I finally went out and purchased a pair of Spanx about a month ago and, after all the hipe, was pretty disappointed. I think you are grossly exaggerating when you say all the rolls fall out. Spanx do not really make you look thinner, they simply smooth your body out so your clothes lay smoother.

It is also really easy to tell if a woman is wearing them or not because her waist will no longer be soft but rather hard to the touch. Even tone bodies have a soft fleshiness to them.

I have to question how much you can really care for a woman if you are to the point of becoming intimate and removing the spanx causes you to want to leave.

It has also been my experience that very few women actually wear spanx on a daily bases either. So you will, more than likely, see her many a times dressed sans spanx.

If wearing spanx is considered lying, that I would argue that wearing any clothing is lying (as you are concealing what your body looks like). All dating should start by striping down and allowing the other person to exam your body to make sure it is acceptable. That can be the only solution to avoid deception.
I was thinking of St. Thomas More writing in Utopia that in the perfect society, men and women would see each other naked before they decided to marry, i.e. were prepared to consummate their relationship.
 
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Xable wrote :
Actually had to look "zaftig" up. That is a new one for me.
I first heard it from Margaret Cho's stand up act years ago. she was talking about how the t.v. producers on her show called her 'zaftig' and said she needed to lose weight. It was a funny routine.

I'm with Xable, NearDC and Luna on this- I've never tried Spanx, but I can't imagine it will conceal any fat that you have in a way that rolls will spring out and surprise you later.

I have an athletic build but wore a shaper type garment a couple of weeks ago because my dress was very clingy and you could see my panty line (And I hate VPLs!), but I don't think I looked appreciably thinner.
 
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I wonder how men with hairpieces or combovers handle bedside issues? What would Donald Trump do?

At least heel lifts don't matter when the couple is horizontal (unless he wore platform shoes - LOL)
 
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Generally speaking though, guys get a pretty good idea of what they are getting with a woman body-wise right up front. I wish we women had the same type of ability! Cause size and shape matters to us too
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Everyone in Hollywood wears Spanx under their Oscar dresses. I wear Spanx when I need to create a certain line. They do create a nice smooth line (even if they are wicked ugly. The woman who created them says "I created the world's ugliest underwear").

But, they are not "magic underwear" able to delete 20 extra pounds. Even if we are wearing Spanx, guys pretty much know what we have going on under there.

There was a great episode of that Julia Louis Dreyfus show "The New Adventures Of Old Christine". She was a 40-something woman trying to date after her divorce (and her ex-husband had married another woman named Christine - hence, "New" and "Old" Christine). She said she felt like a 6 trying to date Blair Underwood, who was a 10. So, she used a few things to "enhance" her appearance to at least an 8. After the date, she came home and started taking off all of her "enhancements". First the platform shoes. Then the Spanx. Then the "chicken cutlet" boob enhancers. The false eyelashes. The clip-in hair extensions. She laid them all out on the coffee table and said "There. That's your 8!".
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I actually had to google Spanx...had no idea what it was...
I don't know how anyone could wear that stuff...
Aside from biker's shorts, I couldn't wear stuff like that..way too constricting!..
My boys need air.
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
There was a great episode of that Julia Louis Dreyfus show "The New Adventures Of Old Christine". She was a 40-something woman trying to date after her divorce (and her ex-husband had married another woman named Christine - hence, "New" and "Old" Christine). She said she felt like a 6 trying to date Blair Underwood, who was a 10. So, she used a few things to "enhance" her appearance to at least an 8. After the date, she came home and started taking off all of her "enhancements". First the platform shoes. Then the Spanx. Then the "chicken cutlet" boob enhancers. The false eyelashes. The clip-in hair extensions. She laid them all out on the coffee table and said "There. That's your 8!".
I loved that show (and that episode!)
 
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TheThinker wrote :
I actually had to google Spanx...had no idea what it was...
I don't know how anyone could wear that stuff...
Aside from biker's shorts, I couldn't wear stuff like that..way too constricting!..
My boys need air.
Trust me, that are anything but comfortable. (There is even a YouTube video of a lady putting a pair on which is pretty funny - it's a workout in and of itself.) But, then, heels are not comfortable either. We girls go through all sorts of things to look pretty for your guys.
 
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