FaintestInkling is offline FaintestInkling Post #41  May 20,2011, 3:27pm
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szgorzelski wrote :
Wow, this thread opened up a pity party can of lonely worms.
Well, yeah. That was kind of the point. What did you expect from the title?


Why does everyone keep correcting the OP, and saying, "I'm alone, but I'm not lonely" or "I'm single, not alone" and such. She didn't ask, "Did you wonder why you ended up lonely?" (She didn't even actually say she was lonely herself, technically.)

Obviously, if you decided to be alone in order to prove you don't need other people (or for whatever other reason), the answer to the question is: "No, I haven't wondered."

For other people who would like to be with someone, and apparently can't be, their answer to the OP's question may be "Yes, I've thought about it, and it's XYZ ..." or "Yes, I've thought about it, and I can't figure it out either."
 
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Boba is offline Boba Post #42  May 20,2011, 8:16pm
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Because I don't believe in, "If you cannot love the one you want, love the one you've got."
 
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j0hn8andy wrote :
Uhhmmm...Married a man who ended up dying on me?

Irregardless, I try not to waste my time feeling sorry for myself. And I don't equate being alone now...

...with being alone forever.

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I think j8a has a good point. Even with happily married people - one has to go first. There are no guarantees we will not outlive those we love. That's depressing but true. I guess try to surround yourself with friends at all stages of life - no one has to be alone. It's a choice. Just because you don't have a mate doesn't mean you will end up alone and just because you have a mate now doesn't mean you always will.
We can live in one of those retirement villages where you are checked up on daily! That's a plan!
 
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theprincessbride wrote :
Don't give up hope. Finding the "right" person is very hard; finding someone who's "not right" is quite easy. Don't do the latter and wait for the former.
Amen! Now that ^ is good, sound advice!
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flgal wrote :
Amen, sista! Now that ^ is good, sound advice!
Psst... It's hard to tell from his screen name, but ThePrincessBride is actually a brotha!
 
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shapeShifter79 wrote :
Nah. I signed divorce papers! But I consider myself single, not alone.
Exactly. Also, I have seen a lot of marriages where each person is alone even though they are living with someone.

Loneliness is a state of mind.
 
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FaintestInkling wrote :

I do, however, have trouble visualizing "magically finding someone" actually happening. (The analytical part of me is just too strong to not say: "It has never happened before. Why would it suddenly happen now


For the record, I used to feel exactly as you do. I'm not trying to argue or be obnoxiously happy about my sudden good fortune. I just know exactly how it feels to wonder if it will ever happen and believe that things could change.

I just am trying to give some hope. I met someone after being alone (and lonely) for so long. It is possible...
 
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Psst... It's hard to tell from his screen name, but ThePrincessBride is actually a brotha!
Oh my! Thanks for bringing that to my attention. I'll make the correction.
 
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tangochef wrote :
Loneliness is a state of mind.
yes...there are several types of 'lonely.' one type is for a mate. the others is for mates (like the australians call it.)
 
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