Leafsg is offline Leafsg Post #1  February 15,2011, 2:45am
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Hi Everyone.

Just out of curiosity, what the heck is it that causes women to be creeped out? Or let me rephraise that. What is it that men say or do that creeps women out?

I ask because i am having a ton of difficulty in learning what does and doesn't creep women out. In my experience, women seem to be creeped out by the silliest things that, in my opinion, should not be creeped out over at all.

It frustrates me because i have not had a girlfriend in 10 years and I later find otu that i have either said or done something that would make women feel creeped out over, and i end up feeling frustrated about because i thought that those things i have said or done were perfectly ok. Besides, there are times where i feel like saying that they would be wrong to feel creeped out about certain things, but as i said, i would feel frustrated if women are creeped out over things i think are perfectly ok for guys to say or do that i think would help me win the woman's heart.

So ladies, i was wondering if you could give me a list of everything that men say or do that creep women out?

Also, if there is an article on eharmony that tells men what creeps women out, i think that would be very helpful, unless someone can recommend a dating coach (depending on if i live in the same city as you).
 
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Can you give an example of what you thought was OK to say that the woman found to be creepy?
 
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TrekRyder10 is offline TrekRyder10 Post #3  February 15,2011, 3:38am
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Leafsg wrote :
So ladies, i was wondering if you could give me a list of everything that men say or do that creep women out?
Are you trying to crash the site?

This list could gone on for months. Reading it would probably make your head...



Unless you are a borderliine stalker or have no filter what so ever..The 'creepy' factor is on a scale of how interested someone is..

Two men can say the same exact things.. A women would might act differently based on her level of interest..


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Also, if there is an article on eharmony that tells men what creeps women out, i think that would be very helpful, unless someone can recommend a dating coach (depending on if i live in the same city as you).
Avoiding 'The Creep Zone'
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Welcome to the boards....sounds like you've already gotten a lot of feedback as to what "creeps women out" but don't want to believe it. It's pretty obvious.......but if you remain fixed in your "this shouldn't creep them out" mindset, you will continue to have problems.....If something doesn't work....just stop doing it and try a different plan........Good Luck........
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i would feel frustrated if women are creeped out over things i think are perfectly ok for guys to say or do that i think would help me win the woman's heart.
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
Unless you are a borderliine stalker or have no filter what so ever..The 'creepy' factor is on a scale of how interested someone is..

Two men can say the same exact things.. A women would might act differently based on her level of interest..
This is very true in my experience. There are some things that are universally "creepy" to women, but by and large it seems to depend on the person saying/doing them and the person on the receiving end. I've found that when women describe "creepy" they're often describing an intuitive, gut-reaction kind of thing rather than something that can be listed. It usually comes down to a guy they're not interested in pursuing them strongly and not taking the hint that they're not interested. Of course, if they ARE interested, they may want to be pursued. Your job then becomes to try to assess which category you fall into. Good luck.

Addendum: Now that I look at the "Avoiding the Creep Zone" article, I see that #2, 3, and 5 in the article all apply to what I'm saying above; especially #3. I disagree strongly with #1, though. No sex talk in the first 10 conversations? Often we've already had sex, let alone talked about it, before 10 conversations. I haven't found many women to be scared away by that, though I suppose if it were in the first or second conversation it would be different.
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Justin1979 wrote :
This is very true in my experience. There are some things that are universally "creepy" to women, but by and large it seems to depend on the person saying/doing them and the person on the receiving end. I've found that when women describe "creepy" they're often describing an intuitive, gut-reaction kind of thing rather than something that can be listed. It usually comes down to a guy they're not interested pursuing them strongly and not taking the hint that they're not interested. Of course, if they ARE interested, they want to be pursued. Your job then becomes to try to assess which category you fall into. Good luck.

Addendum: Now that I look at the "Avoiding the Creep Zone" article, I see that #2, 3, and 5 in the article all apply to what I'm saying above; especially #3. I disagree strongly with #1, though. No sex talk in the first 10 conversations? Often we've already had sex, let alone talked about it, before 10 conversations. I haven't found many women to be scared away by that, though I suppose if it were in the first or second conversation it would be different.
This basically nails it. "creepy" or "creep" or anything like that is just something women say about someone they're not interested in who is showing an interest in them.

All you're experiencing is regular rejection. Get used to it. 90% of guys will experience much more rejection than acceptance.
 
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You can read that article that's provided by eha, but IMO, much of it is subjective to the individual being "creeped out"...

You'll have to give us examples because "creepy-ness", like pornography, can and does mean different things to different people.
 
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There isn't much that I consider 'creepy', other than my two or three legit police-involved stalkers.

I don't care for it when I am approached by much, much younger men, in their early 20's, but I find it lame rather than creepy.
Sex talk doesn't creep me out because I am probably better at it than most men.
Needy and clingy are two big creepers for me.
 
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The article trek linked to is pretty good except #1 -- some women will be creeped out by early talk about sex; others won't. But there's a difference between "talking about sex" and making a lot of extreme sexual innuendo, early on, especially when you haven't met the guy yet. Getting a first email from an online match that has a lot of sexual talk/innuendo is creepy.

Leafsg it's hard to provide the list you're asking for because it's so situational, it can be subtle, it's specific to you and what you do, not to all men. I think your best bet is to make a list of all the times you were told you creeped someone out, and learn from that. Bearing in mind that some women get creeped out very easily ... still, most women won't say that to you unless they really mean it.
 
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