Creeper at the gym...call the management?


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tjlpd is offline tjlpd Post #21  February 9,2011, 11:32am
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CP30 I would mention everything you said here including the fact that you are thinking of not renewing your membership due to this guy and that you did not workout the other night as he was the only person at the gym.
 
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Wanted to add, I would feel much better about being a tattler than remaining quiet and him continuing to creep me out and/or potential harm a female gym goer. What harm is there in telling management? It is their decision on how to act on the information.
 
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I guess I'm wondering if they would be able to identify him by my description and/or the times we were there.
 
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Do they have security cameras? Inside the gym or out in the parking lot? He might be on them.

Your decision, of course. But if I was running a business and about to lose a customer...I would want to know why.

Absolutely agree with nearDC's post WRT to the "benignness" of a man that raises the hair on the back of my neck. But then...you already knew that.

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cp30 wrote :
I guess I'm wondering if they would be able to identify him by my description and/or the times we were there.

How do you get in? Keycard? Then they can tell who is there and when. It's better to be safe than sorry. Talk to the gym manager. It won't hurt anything. And it's not tattling. The guy is trying to rattle you with his behavior. Regardless if he felt you were being rude, you made it clear you were not interested in conversing in anyway. That doesn't give him carte blanche to act like an idiot.
 
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They do have security cameras. Since I got a good look at his car last time, and it's unique, I might add that in. The owner meets everyone when they join so he might have a good idea who he is and I'm SURE he would not appreciate a weirdo making people uncomfortable.

Even just the way he stopped what he was doing last night to see who was pulling in was odd. I mean, he made a huge effort to see and not just a glance.

As a contrast, I was alone there last night around 10pm after he left. Another guy came in and I instantly felt more comfortable....as that guy just said 'hello' smiled and went about doing his thing, he was not at all threatening but rather made me feel more comforatble. I'm certainly not afraid of everyone (male) who enters. This was a first.
 
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How do you get in? Keycard? Then they can tell who is there and when. It's better to be safe than sorry. Talk to the gym manager. It won't hurt anything. And it's not tattling. The guy is trying to rattle you with his behavior. Regardless if he felt you were being rude, you made it clear you were not interested in conversing in anyway. That doesn't give him carte blanche to act like an idiot.
yes, key card.

yes....the last part, that is the feeling I found inescapble. Most normal people just respectfully go about their business. He seemed intent on making himself known and feeding off any behavior from me wether it be negative or positive. Like a deer in the headlights...I don't think I was rude to him, I was more just paying attention to the tv and my workout....but he seemed to take my reaction (no matter what it was) way to seriously...which is just inappropriate for the setting. Most people are there to workout not make new friends and especially not force their music on everyone.

When he went to work on weights I felt like his eyes were on my every move. Very unsettling. But the way he acted when I left, including watching me get into my car and the weird gestures (that I have trouble explaining here without drawing them!) topped it all. I couldn't drive out of that parking lot fast enough.
 
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CP, your description of that gym late at night seems like a situation that every woman should avoid. Even though this creep may not cause you problems, others might arrive after you, and you shouldn’t have to be on a nervous edge every time you work out.

You asked for suggestions on approaching the manager. How about asking him if the gym might provide some reliable male presence, say from 9:00pm until midnight. That would be an opening to explain your concerns, and might convince him that it would be good for business and encourage greater use of the gym. His installation of alarm buttons is certainly noteworthy.

While hiring a security guard might be expensive, he could offer a couple of college students a free or reduced membership to come in and study there, say, from 9:00 until midnight. If they occupied the manager’s office and made their presence well known, it could be effective and reassuring to women like yourself. They wouldn't need to confront anyone, just be available to hit an alarm button if the need arose, or ask the police to stop by if they witnessed what you experienced.
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