tinaroonie is offline tinaroonie Post #1  February 4,2011, 3:58pm
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I was just wondering about jewelery. Lately I have decided I love jewelery, especially the real gold stuff. Growing up I always got jewelery from my parents, but not lately. I have had one guy give me a pair of earrings for my birthday. I was wondering if it's okay for a woman to buy her own jewelery? I'm not talking cheap costume jewelery, but I'm also not thinking thousands of dollars, but somewhere in the middle range? A pair of earrings or a necklace or bracelet maybe? I saw something I like in an ad, and want to buy it, but wasn't sure what people thought about that. Oh, screw it, I will just do it. Still curious about your opinions though.
 
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Why in the world would you think that it's not okay to buy yourself jewelry? Of course it's fine! Goodness; if I didn't buy myself jewelry I would have none at all.

Go ahead and buy yourself whatever you want (well; buying yourself an engagement or wedding ring "just in case" might be odd, but anything else is fair game).

I really am curious to know where you got the idea that it's not okay, though. You must not be alone in that belief, but it's not something I relate to. (Maybe it's a regional or cultural thing?)
 
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I cannot imagine why you'd think it's unacceptable to purchase something you want to buy with your own money.

I certainly can appreciate that jewelry has bonus sentimental value when it was a gift, but I'm sure as heck not about to wait around for someone to give me the things I want
 
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I thought this was going to be another thread about 'how much' jewlery we wear. I must admit a little suprised by the topic I love to buy msyelf special things, including flowers on occasion.

It would not occur to me that jewlery must come from someone else. I mean, what if when we meet a new guy, and we are wearing nice jewlery, should he assume some man bought it for us?

I don't wear a lot of jewlery for different reasons, but expect as I age I'll wear more as I acquire more things that I like and part of my style is that I'm minimialist in the jewlery....

but I would definitley buy my own!
 
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I've received the majority of my jewelry as gifts from my parents (birthdays, xmas, etc.), however I don't hesitate to buy things for myself if the mood strikes.

I wouldn't buy myself (or contribute to) an engagement ring, but that's probably the only exception.
 
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Now for the "other" side...

Been married most of my life. Most of my jewelry...all the good pieces, certainly...were gifts from my husbands. So I understand your question.

My husband died a couple years back. Since then, I've done some "firsts"...first party where I acted as my own hostess alone...first flowers I bought since he died...first travel alone...first dining in a nice restaurant alone...and most recently...

...bought my first piece of jewelry, alone. And it was expensive...a ring, custom. I bought it because someday I'm going to have to stop wearing my wedding set...this will fit my ring finger, left hand.

I asked the jeweler if he gets many women buying their own jewelry. He said it doesn't happen often enough; most of the "good" stuff is bought by men. But he loves to see women come in and buy their own jewelry.

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I've bought myself many gold and platinum pieces of jewelry. I collect charm bracelets and had added to my collection over the years, including victorian and modern ones. Buy what makes you happy and wear it in good health!
 
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Most of these posts are right on.

The good thing about being afforded the right to earn an income, is you get the sole authority on how you spend it.

It is more than "alright" to buy jewelry if you wish ... I expect anybody I meet to have bought that which they own.
 
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Do men buy themsleves jewelry?

I haven't bought myself anything, not even a watch. I would consider it odd.
 
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I have a friend who considers it bad luck to buy any jewelry for herself...however, she has a husband who buys her plenty (I started adding up carats once...I had to give up).

I've always bought my own jewelry (other than my wedding set). I don't see anything wrong with it.
 
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