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SoilderLover is offline SoilderLover Post #1  October 20,2010, 4:54pm
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Does your matches career matter to you. I have seen several posts that people ask if they are getting closed out due to their career. Most people say no that isn't probably the reason unless they say its a reason.

I have gotten closed out a lot of times which seems to be the case with quite a few people. But I thought I would ask this anyway to see what people honestly think.

I have two jobs right now and one really isn't female dominate. I am an automotives part deliver. I am working towards being an automotive service technician as that is what I went to school for.
 
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I seem to be in the minority of those who use this service who admit to career being a primary screen.

Personally, I think most people do in fact care - especially when it comes to commitment decisions.

For myself, I look for similar income, similar schedule, and similar motivation. In my experience, these things matter.
 
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Some men want women who make as much as they do and have the same education level as they do.

Some men just want a woman with job that is admirable and shows a caring-side...like teacher, nurse, social worker, counselor, etc.

Some men are just happy with a pretty face.


The only common denominator is that most men want to make sure their mate is feminine. Make sure you stress your feminine side in your profile. For instance, I wouldn't post any photos of you in oil-smeared overalls and oily hands. To some men it may sexy, but for many it detracts. You can have the best of both worlds by explaining what you do and then showing yourself in a evening dress for instance.

But in general, women are more interested in men's careers than vice versa.
 
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I can understand that part. I don't think my schedule is too much different from a lot of my matches but right now I do think that my income might be lower than some of them.

Hopefully in the near future that will change because I would like to be making more money that I am. I set my setting so they would be closer to me as far as income goes.

So I am wondering if its more of the type of job?

Would you date a woman autmotive technician if you were a man or would that be too much of a turn off to you?

If you were a woman would you date a man who works for the waste company collecting trash?
 
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RebornInFire wrote :
Some men want women who make as much as they do and have the same education level as they do.

Some men just want a woman with job that is admirable and shows a caring-side...like teacher, nurse, social worker, counselor, etc.

Some men are just happy with a pretty face.


The only common denominator is that most men want to make sure their mate is feminine. Make sure you stress your feminine side in your profile. For instance, I wouldn't post any photos of you in oil-smeared overalls and oily hands. To some men it may sexy, but for many it detracts. You can have the best of both worlds by explaining what you do and then showing yourself in a evening dress for instance.

But in general, women are more interested in men's careers than vice versa.
No oil smeared face in profile nor overalls. I actually posted a lot of photos of me dressed up for a photo shoot with friends. I did have one with me in an evening dress but I deleted it because I took it not a friend so I will have to have someone do that for me.
 
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Would you date a woman autmotive technician if you were a man or would that be too much of a turn off to you?

Most of my dating experience is from my 20's; at that time I was not especially concerned with looking for long-term suitability, so as long as she was free at least every other weekend, able to pay for what she wanted (and what she wanted to do was similar to me), I would accept her occupation.

Today, I am more cognizant of screening for partners who are actually suitable for a committed future - meaning she desires and can afford the same style of housing as me, of investments and wealth-building / retirement security, etc.

If she can meet the above, I would then look to the future she likely had, her schedule, and the geographic opportunity she had. (Most of my interviews require flying, so I tend not to choose partners who are tied to a specific location.)

As to an occupation being relatively more or less popular for a gender, I do not think to notice or care about that.
 
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If you were a woman would you date a man who works for the waste company collecting trash?
Funny you mention that. I did have a match who said her job was profiled on "Dirty Jobs".
It didn't score her any brownie points.
 
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I work in a male-dominated field. Though my job isn't specifically tailored toward men, I'm one of only 5 or 6 women out of about 75 workers. It doesn't seem to be a turnoff, though maybe that's because guys sometimes misunderstand what it is I really do and think I'm a meter maid.

The only times it has ever been an issue is when I'm in a relationship and they get stressed hearing what actually goes on when I'm working, like if I'm using my Bluetooth while I work. I come home filthy, but as long as I shower right away, it doesn't seem to matter. I did do a double take recently when I was talking about my work, and a male friend of my boyfriend jokingly said something about how I must look sexy in my work gear. My boyfriend jumped in with "Oh, no. It's not like that at all. Definitely not sexy at all!" Ouch!

I have closed out one match due to profession, back when I was on eH. He was a professional gambler, and I'm a little compulsive myself, so I figured that would be a horrifying relationship. Other than that, I don't see any job being bad, providing it was legal, ethical and allowed him to pay his bills without my help.
 
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SoilderLover wrote :
I can understand that part. I don't think my schedule is too much different from a lot of my matches but right now I do think that my income might be lower than some of them.

Hopefully in the near future that will change because I would like to be making more money that I am. I set my setting so they would be closer to me as far as income goes.

So I am wondering if its more of the type of job?

Would you date a woman autmotive technician if you were a man or would that be too much of a turn off to you?

If you were a woman would you date a man who works for the waste company collecting trash?
There was a thread on here somewhere, in a group, I think, about girly-girls vs. tomboys, which was hotter - and it was amzing how many men were more responsive to a girl who wasn't afraid to get dirty. Don't hide it, I think it is awesome, and I am sure you will see that many guys do as well.
 
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