Your Matches and Higher Education - How Much Does it Matter to You?

Your Matches and Higher Education - How Much Does it Matter to You?

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dhknj is offline dhknj Post #1  October 19,2010, 6:03pm
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I have a couple of graduate degrees, but I have a very strong preference for females who have never attended college and have no career orientation whatever.  When I was a member of e-harmony, it seemed that every female with whom I was matched had attended graduate school.  I wish that e-harmony provided members with a greater range of precise preferences regarding a match's education, so that someone with a preference like mine might actually be matched with someone I'd really like to meet. 
 
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I have a couple of graduate degrees, but I have a very strong preference for females who have never attended college and have no career orientation whatever.

What is your reason for this "very strong preference"?
 
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D_Lion wrote :
What is your reason for this "very strong preference"?
Maybe he has aspirations of the nuclear family with a stay at home wife? Unlike the average male income earner, he probably makes enough to afford a comfortable life on his income alone.
 
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Interesting.

This is a thread-reversal!

It matters to me ... a lot. But I'm in the opposite boat in that I prefer a match with a similar educational background as mine. And it wouldn't matter which college they went to, although I am dating someone who does research at the University I attended as an undergraduate, and I found that to be a cool coincidence!
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1. If you had three matches, and only one had a college degree, would you tend to communicate more with that match? (Assume that all other factors were equal.)

2. Does the level of higher learning a person has achieved make any difference to you?

3. Again, all things being equal, do you place a greater value on a match that has graduated from a university that is generally considered to be prestigious?

4. Would you be more interested in meeting someone that graduated from your university?

5. If you were forced to choose one of these three preferences to give up on, which would it be?

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College Education, Your Height or Taller, Affectionate

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1. No, a college degree wouldn't have an effect on my communication level with a match. The only thing that affects my communication level is how much I "hit it off" with him--do I like communicating with him, is he interesting/attractive/etc.

2. Yes, the level of higher learning does make some difference to me. I'm concerned about matches with less, especially much less, education that I have. I worry about their financial stability. I also worry that their work ethic/ambition/philosophy on work will be vastly different from mine. Low education can be an indicator that someone doesn't value work or is lazy. This is not always the case, of course, it is merely a "yellow flag" to keep my eye on. I also look to it as a possible (though flawed) indicator of intelligence.

3. I'm not especially attracted to graduates of prestigious universities. I'm suspicious that they will be elitist. (I was forced to hang out with a bunch of elitists not too long ago, and it wasn't fun.) Elitism aside, it can also just be a sign of class differences between us. I don't especially want to date someone of a much-higher class than I am--I think there would be many things we wouldn't have in common.

4. Interested in meeting a fellow Penn Stater? Sure! That would be cool, especially considering that I now live n Arkansas! But it's obviously not a huge deal either way. Just cool.

5. Height. I'd give up height, first thing. Who cares how tall a guy is? (Okay, lots of women, apparently, but not me!!)
 
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I am internally conflicted about this. I am a firm believer in "what's good for the goose is good for the gander"... so I wouldn't ask a woman to be anything I wasn't.

But I got my BA when I was 33.

And I find I'm far more attracted to women who can hold up their end of the conversation - which usually entails at least a BA or BS. But not always, as one of my close female friends only has an associates and we click pretty well.

But profiles that indicate one or more masters degrees really get my attention.
 
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Sparkles56 wrote :
...I'm far more attracted to women who can hold up their end of the conversation - which usually entails at least a BA or BS...
At times -- among the women and the men on these boards -- there appears be a least some BS.
 
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You can change settings on education level based on your im portance of a match on that.

Why do you feel you want someone who dare I say this---"dumb"....is this because you want to be the dominant one, the hero, the breadwiinner, where she is a stay at home mom.
 
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I'm often astonished at how much men seem to care about whether a woman has a degree or not.

I've been told flat out that he was contacting me because of my education and I've been attacked, because my level of education made the guy feel too insecure about himself. To me this always seems downright weird.

Personally, I couldn't care less what education he has or doesn't. What matters is what he is doing with himself and his actual level of intelligence. Some of the most brilliant people I've ever met barely had a high school diploma, yet can run circles around high degree professionals.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
I'm often astonished at how much men seem to care about whether a woman has a degree or not.

I've been told flat out that he was contacting me because of my education and I've been attacked, because my level of education made the guy feel too insecure about himself. To me this always seems downright weird.

Personally, I couldn't care less what education he has or doesn't. What matters is what he is doing with himself and his actual level of intelligence. Some of the most brilliant people I've ever met barely had a high school diploma, yet can run circles around high degree professionals.
I met a guy at a party who could not stop bragging his educational attainment. The first question he asked me was which university I went to. Then my answer made him a little insecure and he could not stop bragging even further.
At the same party, I met another guy who introduced himself as a language teacher. He actually owns an export-import company overseas as well that is taken care of by his business partner. The job as a language teacher is conveinent for him in securing his VISA and working flexibly communicating with his partner.
The latter guy came across as ovbiously a lot more attractive.
 
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