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windsurfing is offline windsurfing Post #1  September 24,2010, 7:34am
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Just curious what other members are finding most helpful about these advice boards.

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- It has been helpful to read others' experiences. This has helped me take my experiences less personally.
 
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Just curious what other members are finding most helpful about these advice boards.It has been helpful to read others' experiences. This has helped me take my experiences less personally.
 
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windsurfing wrote :
Just curious what other members are finding most helpful about these advice boards.

Let me start off:

- It has been helpful to read others' experiences. This has helped me take my experiences less personally.
I agree with that -- to find that other people have trouble getting contact online too, that poofers are not just targeting me, etc., has been useful.

Another thing I've liked about these boards is getting more clarity on my own beliefs and attitudes about various things, by hearing a wide range of ideas and opinions.
 
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I've found that not everyone is alone in their feelings about things. There is ALWAYS someone going through the same thing you are. Or they have gone through it and can offer some advice.

It's also helped me see some of the game playing both sides engage in. It's so easy to spot now.
 
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Dropdeadredtx wrote :
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...arned-eha.html (What have you learned from EHA?)
Thanks, Red--that was a good read. Very funny stuff!

What I've found most helpful is just having a sounding-board for my relationship/dating thoughts. I don't really feel comfortable talking to my friends/family about these things all the time (I feel like, if I'm not careful what I say, I just start talking about myself and never shut up). So it's nice to be able to talk to/at the folks here. Get a little reassurance, get a little perspective, or even just talk "out loud" to myself, kinda. Putting thoughts down on paper (so to speak) makes them somehow more real, I guess. And easier to deal with, then.

Really, it's either, talk at y'all, or get myself a split personality to talk to.
 
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It's also helped me see some of the game playing both sides engage in. It's so easy to spot now.
Yeah, it's helpful to get to know more about guys' point of view (not just about game-playing). Even if I disagree to some, it's helpful to get to know the ideas, which makes me react less in the real life.
 
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Like the previous posters, I am reassured by reading others' experiences. It is also very helpful to put into words some difficult issues and feelings.

Having a community of people in similar circumstances is wonderfully comforting. It's a safe place to be vulnerable.
 
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I agree with everthing stated above and enjoy the encouragement that I'm not a total loser. The crazy things happen to all the beautiful people too.
 
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Having an outside pespective on a current situation has helped me.

Also a friend here once told me, It helps to write it down and read it, gives you a whole another view.
 
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