TheProdigy is offline TheProdigy Post #1  August 13,2010, 8:48am

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I find it humorous and mostly flattering that you find my successes so unbelievable that you think I'm making them up or masquerading as another user. It's prehaps one of the best compliments you've given me.

At the same time I'm furiously annoyed at how many of you bury your heads in the sand, and especially how many of you men want to jump on my back and slam me. I read your posts on here, and there were several just recently.. "Why didn't she call me back?" "She said she just wants to be friends, do I have a chance?" "messed up, can this be salvaged" "how long to wait to call" and what not.

You think I'm a jerk and a punk ? Well let me ask you this... why does it have to be you sitting around wondering if she likes you? If she wants another date?? Look at the same posts on here by women! "I'm worried he'll cancel the first date" "Is he just not into me?" "what have I done?" "three dates on no kiss?" "am I asking to be hurt?"
"have you used the I'm not feeling well excuse?" "why are there so many flakes?"

So why is it Mr. Nice Guys, Mr. Sensitives, Mr. I Know Women that these women are asking questions, but not about guys like you? It's because they don't date guys like you. They date guys like me. You're wondering if she's going to call back. And why she just wants to be your friend... And she's wondering why the guy like me disappeared.

Granted, most of us are in the same place (single & looking). But I'd sure as hell rather be the person the girl is asking "why did he dump me?" "why did he disappear?" than be the guy asking "why did she want to be friends?"

Am I really a rarity? Am I a charlatan? My claims so egregious? Look at the posts from women on here and answer the question for yourself. Toughen up. Study the game. Learn from me as I learn from you. But DO NOT heap scorn on me, bury your head in the sand, and then ask why you get passed over in the dating game.

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I haven't read you post successes. It seems you are currently in a short term relationship that you want to get out of because the person doesn't meet your standards.

I have no problems with women calling me back and all of the three women that I have asked on dates here the first month on Eharmony have accepted. No one has ever told me they wanted to be friends or not returned my call.

You can be polite and not shallow and women will still want to be with you.
 
 
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I haven't read you post successes. It seems you are currently in a short term relationship that you want to get out of because the person doesn't meet your standards.

I have no problems with women calling me back and all of the three women that I have asked on dates here the first month on Eharmony have accepted. No one has ever told me they wanted to be friends or not returned my call.

You can be polite and not shallow and women will still want to be with you.
You can be polite and not shallow, of course. But at the end of the day, they have to respect you. And just from reading some of the posts by guys on here, I can tell they aren't going to get that respect from majority of the women.

And then the women on here want to say they aren't shallow..They only date nice guys.... Then why aren't they dating guys like the ones who are posting the "I just want to love you and let you walk on my back" posts? Don't bash me on the threads, then go out and look for guys like me in real life. Go get one of these doormat types. It's hypocritical.

I don't deny that I'm having problems finding the woman that is right for me. But when these posters tell me I'm really some 50yo making up stories it gets under my skin. Rather than ask "how do I get dates too?" , they rather say "Well I don't get but one date a year, so there's no way anyone can possibly have it any easier".
 
 
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I think you are stating how things work for you, Prodigy. I think it is a mistake to assume they work the same way for everyone.

It's more productive on these boards to explore different points of view than for any poster to tell another poster they're just wrong wrong wrong and should "be like me". That goes for you, it goes for everyone here.

BTW if you feel you have been personally attacked, please use the Report Post button. But someone disagreeing with you is not an attack. "You are [negative characteristic]" is an attack. "Your opinion is [negative characteristic] because ..." is not an attack.
 
 
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The way things work is that she dumped you.
 
 
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Well, I said I had posted my last post on these forums, but I had to post at least one more time on this thread.

As a guy who didn't get dates every weekend with different girls and wasn't necessarily the "ladies man" type as you claim to be, sir Prodigy, I can tell you that it really doesn't matter what you say. You're absolutely right, and absolutely wrong as well.

I met my girlfriend by chance. It just was dumb luck as some here have put it, but yet, it did happen. I didn't have to change who I am, I didn't have to play any games, I didn't have to dress differently...I was just myself. And, we connected with each other on many levels. True, we are still getting to know each other and time definitely will tell as to if we will stand the test of time, but we both feel blessed for finding each other.

I think you have to ask yourself this: which means more to you. The quantity of dates you have, or the quality. Now, you might say that you have been out with all quality women and that might be true, but you haven't obviously found one particular one that is very special to you. That is what really, most guys here are, or at least should be, holding out for. I would rather say I have had my last first date, rather than to have fifty first dates with fifty different women in which I share no connection with at all.

With that said, the "Mr. Nice Guys" here will eventually find their ladies as long as they continue to prepare themselves and stay positive with it. But it all comes down to something neither you nor I can ever truly create, and that is luck.
 
 
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This is not going in a good direction.

Please stay on topic. Please do not attack each other. If the thread does not interest you, go elsewhere. If you feel you have been attacked, use the Report Post button rather than responding.

The level of discourse in this thread needs to get up off the floor, or it will be locked until Lori can review it.
 
 
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Unless I'm mistaken, it's generally not accepted in this forum to re-hash topics which are currently "locked"...

Although, stranger things have happened.
 
 
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All right folks.

First, I'm going to close this thread because I feel its an attack on the men of this Community.

Prodigy - if you're attacked on these boards, report, don't reply. Replying only escalates the situation which sounds like it's not working for you.

Everyone - if you feel that someone's here without the intent to genuinely participate in our Community THE only acceptable action is to report them. I don't want to see the word "troll" or "imposter" on these boards relative to another Member.

And another general message - presenting your opinions as truth is seldom a good idea. What works for one person might be disastrous for another - we all have different personalities, goals, etc. We have to be as respectful of our differences as we are our commonalities. If everyone can remember this, it will help make our Community an even more helpful and nicer place.

Thanks everyone in advance for your cooperation!

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