yeahitsme is offline yeahitsme Post #1  August 8,2010, 11:46am
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Ok, this is really more of a need to vent, but I would certianly welcome any feedback or encouragement!

I am 25. I'm stuck in a weird place in my dating life.

There are fewer and fewer people my age that are single, becuase they are all getting married right about now. There are a fair number of people slightly older than me going through divorce from their first marriage, and not ready to date just yet. Then the even older groups are finding themselves in their second marriages.

As for men slightly younger than me, they are just comming out of college, and focusing on their fledgling careers. And I have a lot of apprehensions about dating men who are still in college.

I realize that this may be my twisted way of justifying why I'm having a hard time meeting anybody in my age group, but I think it holds some weight.

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Somebody, prove me wrong!
 
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No.

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Yeahitsme...

I think the questions you should ask yourself is what type of relationship you want right now for your life and what you want in a few years time regardless of what your friends/social circles are doing.

And then look for that whether you can within your social circle or whether you need to look outside of it to find what you want for you.

I think twenty-five was the age that my friends' lives started changing...I think this is normal and you will see more of it in the coming years with more marriages and kids and stuff.

Figure out when you want that to happen for you in your life and then go from there.

At least I think that is what you are pondering...maybe?
 
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I'm 34 and going through the same thing. Women that are younger seem to be just getting life started and older ones already are set in there life. Not that it's a bad thing. But I think you just have to know what you want and you will find somebody. I know I'm not goin to give up.
 
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Hello:

I can totally understand where you are coming from, I'm twenty-eight. All my good friends are all married. The most frustrating aspect to me is not that I'm not married, it's that now that they are married they typically will only hang-out with other married couples. I say typically because they still do make time for me, but still it's not like the early twenties where you could just give a friend a buzz and then two hours later you're out grabbing a beer. Now, it's more like I have to call a week in advance and then they have to check if they have any couple activities going on and get back to me.

However, still remain positive and hopeful because there are a lot of people who not married and it's just a matter of going out there and meeting them. And please don't make the mistake of just getting married for the sake of getting married.
 
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To a point it is an excuse. When I was your age and feeling the same way I can now look back and see that I felt that way because of where I was living and who my social circle was. It was expected. Once I moved into a bigger city...I was more of the norm. Now that I'm even older than that and living in an even bigger city it's not such an issue.

As others have said, determine what you want out of life and a relationship.

And remember...if you're out there in that situations...there are others in the same boat.
 
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Thanks guys, I appreciate your support.

I'm just at that weird point in my life, where everything is changing for everybody and its kind of freaking me out. You know?

Just gotta keep plugging away I guess!
 
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I'm 27, so I can relate quite a bit. When I was 25 all I saw were people I knew getting married or were married. People moving along with their lives with someone while I'm alone.

The older women don't want a younger man, and dating younger women, well it probably couldn't turn into anything serious. For whatever reason my friends and I noticed a huge maturity gap that occurs right around the age of 25. It all really does boil down to what you're describing. The younger ones are either still in their party phase or just now getting out of it. While we were all that age and had a hard on for the world, we really lacked the wisdom to do anything meaningful with that gusto.

There's a lot to be learned with age. Just ride it out. You've come to what seems the right conclusion so far. You'll get over the "bleh" feeling soon enough.
 
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yeahitsme wrote :
Thanks guys, I appreciate your support.

I'm just at that weird point in my life, where everything is changing for everybody and its kind of freaking me out. You know?

Just gotta keep plugging away I guess!
lol! Yeah I know...I remember that point for me...just wait until you turn 30. lol!

Hang in there.
 
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yeahitsme wrote :
I'm just at that weird point in my life, where everything is changing for everybody and its kind of freaking me out. You know?

Not really.

I prefer to be the cause of freaking out.
 
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