Do You Date With Your Mind Or Your Heart?


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crystals is offline crystals Post #51  November 14,2010, 12:01pm
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To a certain extent I date with my mind, and allow my heart to do the rest. I ask myself the logical question: is this safe? Then I let my heart do the talking
 
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In my opinion, if one thinks with their head first, the heart will follow.
 
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Both. If my heart or mind is not in it, I don't keep going. I would say that my gut keeps a good balance between the two. So I follow my gut. Hasn't lead me wrong yet. Every relationship I've had has been exactly what a I needed at the time. And when I met my sweetie, he was without hesitation everything my gut has always told me I wanted in a forever man.
 
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Crcbonjour wrote :
I can honestly say for me it is both heart and mind. I cannot separate the two in terms of how I function. I am very cerebral and analytical and so I am observing from that standpoint, which I think we all are in the beginning but I have perhaps, maybe a flaw in that I am essentially a sensitive person who is always also guided by my heart. It does not mean that on a first date, I am professing deep feelings or overdoing it in that department, they don't "know" I am thinking this way but I am using my sensitive side to get a read on them. Does it cause me more pain and disappointment operating this way? Sure. But it is how I am and there's no changing it at this point in the game so both are always at work for me -
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Not looking for a love story on a first date. Just some sense of an emotional presence, is all. If it's there, I know that more can develop later on. I need to know this while the cerebral part is taking place.
I missed this thread when it started in August. I am glad someone dug it out of the archives and resurrected it. I needed this perspective.

This is a great post!!! May I appropriate the advice as my own philosophy, please?
 
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