I am at THAT point right now!

I think my friends and co-workers are pushing me to move this along farther than where it's at right now.One said I HAD to hurry up and talk to her about being exclusive before she loses interest

Another friends thought it was a sin that I had not invited her to be a Facebook friend.

Honestly, I know that I can have a long and happy relationship with her, but I don't care if it takes awhile for both us to get on the same level. I just want to enjoy spending time and getting to know her better without fearing I'm going to do something to screw it up.

totally dissagree with that advice.. a saying that is used alot around here is pace not chase.. and my new favorite slow but steady!


Someday I'll understand everyones fascination with adding or not adding people they're dating to their facebook.

That's great you feel that way about her, one important thing not to lose sight of is.. are you needs being met? Don't compromise want you need in a relationship..relationships should be a win-win for both parties!

I am at THAT point right now where I am really, really, really crushin' hard on the girl I have been going out with. We have been out on about four dates, going on date number five tomorrow night. We have had long make-out sessions (just making out mind you). I have met her parents twice. She has met several of my friends and they like her and she likes them. We have already planned out trips and dates for the rest of the year! Everything is going unbelievably well! There are no red flags so far. We see eye to eye on all major issues that would keep us from having a long and happy relationship. Honestly, she is THE perfect girl for me. I can't say that about any other girl I have ever went out with. (hint: love notes for her to find are great gifts)

So, as you can see, I'm really starting to fall for this girl, pretty hard too. I'm just worried that I am falling for her too quickly. We've been out on four dates. However, two of those four dates were about 8 to 12 hours long and the other two dates were at least 4 or more hours long. So, we've spent a lot of time together within those four dates. I finally added her to my Facebook yesterday,(status = "in a relationship with" or just "friend"? and since then, it's driven me crazy. I almost wished I hadn't though. I kind of liked having that part separated as to create mystery.

But anyways, am I falling too quickly for her? (YOUR choice) I haven't told her I am, but I have told her that I really like her. She didn't verbalize it to me, but I sense it in her actions. Things have been going so well and happening naturally and I have enjoyed the ride. And maybe it is because I still am struggling with my confidence, but I want to keep impressing her, (in my humble opinion YOU should impress her, not the things you do for her, and you should never have to "try", just "be" yourself, otherwise she is falling for a fantasy )I want to keep her looking forward to seeing me. I realize all of that happens naturally, but am sort of in a panic now. Maybe because I haven't really heard from her a lot this week (she's been super busy and it's understandable) and our phone conversation was quite short last night. As you can tell, I need someone to slap me in the face, calm me down and tell me to maintain the course.

I guess I'm not wanting to admit it, or say it out loud that I am starting to fall for her, because when I fall for somebody I'm all in. (imho that is the only way anyone should ever be) But I can tell you, if she told me today that she didn't want to date me anymore, I would be absolutely crushed! (bet pennies, and that is all you will ever win/lose) I don't think I could say, "Geez that sucks, well good luck to you!" I'm freakin' out guys! What should I do????

Yeah, none of this sounds bad to me, Greg (that is, except the panic!.

Sometimes, it's just RIGHT. Try to relax and enjoy.

I'm so happy for you!

This sounds great Greg. So much of what you are saying, I'm in the same boat.
can I see the title (think that was my boat... did not pay attention to leaks and it sank...contemplating salvage)?

How I'm handling all your issues is to stop looking so far down the line and just concentrate in the here and now. Make the present work for you, and the future will come.

Also, you are in that cloud 9 phase..as am I. But the test of if she's "perfect", is when you find something you DON'T like about her, and accept it with open arms.

Communication! If you are afraid to say something, it will fester and relationship will go septic and die a stinky painful death! Where there is Love, there is no fear; Where there is fear, there is no Love

At this phase, our heads is too filled with bliss to see, but when our heads clear, that is when you should evaluate.

Seriously, we're being too parallel here because I TOO just added her as a friend on facebook and feeling a little apprehensive about it. My only consolation is that she's not a facebook junky like me.

Think about being a "girlfriend junky"?

But bottom line. Don't be afraid to fall of her. If that is how you feel, embrace it. But embrace it without expectations. Too many expectations and you may start getting disappointments, which maybe of your own making.