AndieIsMe is offline AndieIsMe — Advice Member-Moderator Post #1  July 5,2010, 9:06pm
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There has been so much talk about numbers and dating lately. I just have to ask...

I'm a 7 and he's a 5, he's trying for someone out of his league.

I can't date anyone who wears anything over a size 7, am I being too picky?

She only makes $150K per year! Is she datable?

He's the single dad of 4 kids! Red flag?

She's 10lbs overweight, does this mean she'll be 40lbs overweight when we retire?

He's only 5'11" and I'd rather date someone over 6', is this shallow?

My car only goes 120mph, is this a deal breaker?

She wears a size 11 shoe! What does that mean?

He lives 4000 miles away, he only makes 20k per year and it costs $400 for the plane ticket for him to fly out here. Then, he only sprung for the $5 cup of coffee, and I wanted the $500 dinner! What are guys thinking?!


Are we really this way, people? I'm just at a loss with all these numbers being thrown about and being used as reasons to end/never start a relationship or as the reason to try to get the guy/girl who "isn't really my type".

As long as your post has something about numbers and dating, it's good! Post away!
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #2  July 5,2010, 9:18pm

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I personally think based on what I gather outside this board...that women (at least the ones I talked to)are more forgiving in terms on how much the guy makes (although yes...more is better than less) but it's not as grossly focused as it is here.

I was at a small party last night and one of the girls said that the guy barely paid for dinner or at least they always went Dutch throughout their dating period, but now I believe they'll be engaged soon.

Men (in my area at least) are also much more forgiving and I am almost certain many men are much more accepting towards women's weight (within vanity pounds and also depending the area where you live).

That's what i have for now.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #3  July 5,2010, 9:28pm
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PY_2 wrote :
I personally think based on what I gather outside this board...that women (at least the ones I talked to)are more forgiving in terms on how much the guy makes (although yes...more is better than less) but it's not as grossly focused as it is here.

I was at a small party last night and one of the girls said that the guy barely paid for dinner or at least they always went Dutch throughout their dating period, but now I believe they'll be engaged soon.

Men (in my area at least) are also much more forgiving and I am almost certain many men are much more accepting towards women's weight (within vanity pounds and also depending the area where you live).

That's what i have for now.
Yup, I think internet daters might have a shopping type attitude. Having their list all made out.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #4  July 5,2010, 9:52pm

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livenlearn wrote :
Yup, I think internet daters might have a shopping type attitude. Having their list all made out.
Yep.
 
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I contacted him on EH and he did not respond for 8 days! Close him?

Great first date! I thought .. but that was 6 hours ago and I have not heard from him! Move on?
 
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Hmm...

In the four months I was active on e-harmony, I received 415 matches (plus a few that disappeared mysteriously - so maybe 450 total?) This led to a grand total of two first dates - though, in all fairness, several more matches were headed in that direction until I met the boyfriend and closed all my other matches.

It took 1 month for me to be matched with my boyfriend. Took him 13 months to be matched with me.

We were matched for 1 month before I initiated communication. We communicated for 1 month before our first date. We'll have been dating for 2 months on Saturday.

He lives 130 miles away. Which is drivable. But only on weekends.

And, on a completely unrelated note, I ran 2.75 miles this afternoon. Yay, me!
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In the 8 or so months I was active on eH, I had 5 first dates. Three of those turned into 2-month (or thereabouts) "relationships", 1 was just a 2-date experience, and the most recent is my wonderful gf of almost 4 months. In that time, I think the longest I went without seeing/dating a woman from eH was 2 weeks. My experience doesn't seem to be typical from what people on these boards describe. In some respects--and I don't mean this badly--I kinda felt like a kid in a candy store!
 
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insertscreenname wrote :
In the 8 or so months I was active on eH, I had 5 first dates. Three of those turned into 2-month (or thereabouts) "relationships", 1 was just a 2-date experience, and the most recent is my wonderful gf of almost 4 months. In that time, I think the longest I went without seeing/dating a woman from eH was 2 weeks. My experience doesn't seem to be typical from what people on these boards describe. In some respects--and I don't mean this badly--I kinda felt like a kid in a candy store!
It's really not atypical if you happen to fit the right demograph for your area (age, income, etc). For all the unhappy members who would have one believe otherwise, there are a lot more of us in this category than most believe.
 
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