How many of you have met people where they were just as good in real life as you imagined them to be


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sony12 is offline sony12 Post #1  July 5,2010, 6:47pm
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How many times have you had situations when you met in real life and they ended up being just as good (if not better) then you imagined them to be? Because let's face it we all form pictures in our mind of what the person might be like. And often times what we do when we form those images is just take the few details about them that we know and fill in the blank spots with the type of person that we want them to be. So because of that quite often the actual person does not resemble the image we had in our head before we met.

In my case I have had situations where we got as long as well as I had hoped and in a couple cases she was even better looking then I imagined. But of those as we spent more time around one another I discovered that there were things going on in there lives that made us incompatible for a long term relationship with one another.

So I guess I would say that I have had matches where we got along personally and physically just as well as I had hoped. But we were never quite in the same places in life that would lead us to be able to have a long lasting relationship. For a couple of them they were single mothers who were a few years older then me so continuing to mess around with a young guy began to take a back seat to raising there kids. And then I had a couple who were either not quite as single as they originally claimed to be or they were just getting out of a serious relationship so the more emotional things got the more they started backing away.

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How many times have you had situations when you met in real life and they ended up being just as good (if not better) then you imagined them to be? Because let's face it we all form pictures in our mind of what the person might be like. And often times what we do when we form those images is just take the few details about them that we know and fill in the blank spots with the type of person that we want them to be. So because of that quite often the actual person does not resemble the image we had in our head before we met.

In my case I have had situations where we got as long as well as I had hoped and in a couple cases she was even better looking then I imagined. But of those as we spent more time around one another I discovered that there were things going on in there lives that made us incompatible for a long term relationship with one another.

So I guess I would say that I have had matches where we got along personally and physically just as well as I had hoped. But we were never quite in the same places in life that would lead us to be able to have a long lasting relationship. For a couple of them they were single mothers who were a few years older then me so continuing to mess around with a young guy began to take a back seat to raising there kids. And then I had a couple who were either not quite as single as they originally claimed to be or they were just getting out of a serious relationship so the more emotional things got the more they started backing away.

What about you guys?
When I first jumped back into dating I did "fill in the blanks" of the guys I talked to before meeting. And I found that my presumptions often led to disappointment. Not because they weren't great guys, but because I had built them up in my mind to a standard that probably very few men could live up to.

Since I've stopped doing that I've been much happier and enjoyed dating a lot more. I've learned to go into a date with no expectations or preconceptions of who they will be. And the great part of that is that I am more often than not happily surprised at the guys I meet.

So yes. I meet people all of the time who are just as good or better in real life than I had imagined them to be.
 
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I might be in the minority here, but I've been really accurate about predicting how much I will like someone in person. I've had mostly pleasant first dates with few big suprises.

Often the people I end up liking are even better than I thought they would be -- but always different. You have to leave room open for the things you don't anticipate. Even good thigns can be a suprise at first if it doesn't fit what was in your imagination.
 
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I've had very few favorable suprises, but is has happened.
 
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I might be in the minority here, but I've been really accurate about predicting how much I will like someone in person. I've had mostly pleasant first dates with few big suprises.

Often the people I end up liking are even better than I thought they would be -- but always different. You have to leave room open for the things you don't anticipate. Even good thigns can be a suprise at first if it doesn't fit what was in your imagination.
This is my experience as well. I seem to have a very good filtering system, whatever it is. Only once have I not dated a match I met for at least two months. The relationships haven't necessarily turned into anything serious, but the women have always wound up being much like I expected with a few very pleasant surprises about each of them, which I had not expected.
 
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