Is a Video Game Addiction a Dealbreaker?


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yeahitsme is offline yeahitsme Post #51  July 8,2010, 6:16am
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Yes, addiction is a dealbreaker to me, whether it be online gaming, drinking, drugs, smoking, gambling, or shopping.

All these things are distractions, symptoms of people who are unhappy with their lives and so seek to escape them with these habits. How can they really share their lives with you when they avoid their own life so much?
Not to get too far off topic here, but would somebody please explain to me why dating me would be akin to dating a hollow shell of a woman who has no substance, no "real" life, and is riddled with insecurity and issues... because I smoke? Sure its a nasty habit, I'll admit that, and I don't blame any body for prefering not to be around second hand smoke, or even if they are so health concious that they couldn't bear to see their partner throw their health away on "cancer sticks", but that isn't what you seem to have issue with. This comment kind of struck a nerve with me... so sorry for the tangent.

Oh, and I do fancy myself something of a gamer, though not a very good one. I play the Disney games meant for 7 year olds. My favorite one so far was Ice Age 3.
 
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Sure its a nasty habit, I'll admit that, and I don't blame any body for prefering not to be around second hand smoke, or even if they are so health concious that they couldn't bear to see their partner throw their health away on "cancer sticks", but that isn't what you seem to have issue with.
Actually, it's that and the smell that gets into everything that I have issue with.

I don't read any personality traits into someone that smokes. I figure they picked the habit up somewhere between the ages of 12 and 16 because of peer pressure and otherwise are the same as everyone else.
 
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"So... where are you from? Do you have a big family? Do you enjoy your work? HOW OFTEN DO YOU PLAY VIDEO GAMES!?!"
No, no, no. They ALWAYS underestimate the time they are spending. If you want to out these people, you ask what kind of character and what level they are. This will get hard core players to perseverate... And if they have any high level characters, you know they have invested a LOT of hours.
 
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No, no, no. They ALWAYS underestimate the time they are spending. If you want to out these people, you ask what kind of character and what level they are. This will get hard core players to perseverate... And if they have any high level characters, you know they have invested a LOT of hours.
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For me, it's not as much about the raw number of hours spent playing. It's about letting the game interfere with other things.
 
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I have to agree with a lot of what has been said already, things along the line as "everything is fine in moderation" and how anything can become an unhealthy addiction if allowed to get to that point. And when something becomes an addiction, it is naturally going to damage not only your health, but your personal and social life.

So having any sort of addiction isn't exactly a turn-on.

However, as a female gamer, I don't find playing video games or having a passion for them to be a turn-off, or deal-breaker. I myself love video games, and I also love some other "geeky" things. I see it as an activity we could do together.

As long as they don't interfere with your health, your employment, and more largely speaking, your life, I say enjoy the games!
 
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I have to agree with a lot of what has been said already, things along the line as "everything is fine in moderation" and how anything can become an unhealthy addiction if allowed to get to that point. And when something becomes an addiction, it is naturally going to damage not only your health, but your personal and social life.

So having any sort of addiction isn't exactly a turn-on.

However, as a female gamer, I don't find playing video games or having a passion for them to be a turn-off, or deal-breaker. I myself love video games, and I also love some other "geeky" things. I see it as an activity we could do together.

As long as they don't interfere with your health, your employment, and more largely speaking, your life, I say enjoy the games!
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Cute, fun, young, and sensible. Why are you single, again?
Haha, this is funny because there's a topic about this and I replied in it. My normal response to that question is "You tell me!" because I'm never really sure other than I guess the cards haven't been dealt in my favor yet?

But thank you for that.
 
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Haha, this is funny because there's a topic about this and I replied in it. My normal response to that question is "You tell me!" because I'm never really sure other than I guess the cards haven't been dealt in my favor yet?

But thank you for that.
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For me, it's not as much about the raw number of hours spent playing. It's about letting the game interfere with other things.
Very true. A couple of my friends are like this- many hours invested, high levels... But it is two gamers who married. *grin* They enjoy the activity together, and still manage to have actual lives outside of it. She's going to graduate soon with her nursing degree, and he's been supporting her through the whole thing (more than just financially). And yet, they play about four times more than anyone else I know...

Me? I game a bit. Not an addiction, there is so much else in life I am still curious about... But FFXIV is out in a few months. I'll probably be joining those two friends of mine for a while, a few hours a week. *grin*

Now as long as it doesn't cut into my *book* addiction, we're cool. Paws off the paperbacks, folks. *grin* I'm not done reading them yet...
 
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