Things to NEVER say to a single person (have you heard any of these?)


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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #31  June 29,2010, 1:00pm
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Lilycat wrote :
Knew there was a reason I liked you LOLOLOL!

OT: generally it's not the dumb questions one gets asked at times, but the underlying tone/ purpose you feel coming from the questioner. I'll generally answer anything within reason, politely, but...... there are times...... something similar to the above does slip out there...... when I sense an ulterior motive in the asking, and not a good one.......

Slap you lol, she was probably in shock!

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17. But you're so pretty! Why don't you have a boyfriend?

My Doctor actually said this to me. She's an excellently thorough Dr and a kindly, adorable, tiny, motherly figure in a sari and I decided to be pleased with the comment. After all, how many of us have a medical professional endorsing our suitability for mating purposes?

The other 18 are stupidly irritating.
I agree with you both -- there are times when people are genuinely asking a question with your best interest at heart, or just actual curiosity, which in my mind is totally fine.

It's, as LilyCat said, the ulterior motive or the sense that in addition to TRYING to make us feel badly, what they are REALLY doing is affirming (in their own mind, at least) that they are somehow "better" than us *just* because they're in a relationship and we're not, that gets me.

It brings to mind Bridget Jones' and her "smug married" friends.

These are some great stories....looking to hear more! Helps me to know that I'm not alone...especially since once people hear that I work for eHarmony they automatically assume that means I have the personal inside track on MY perfect match...if only it were so!* lol





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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #32  June 29,2010, 1:06pm
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
*eHarmony employees are not allowed to use the service.
That doesnt make any sence. Most places I ever worked for encouraged you spending your pay check there by offering a discount. Usually the amount of sales tax but what the heck?
 
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Breezy1 is offline Breezy1 Post #33  June 29,2010, 3:37pm
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6. He's out there
I get this all the time from well meaning friends/acquaintances. It always makes my heart sink because "out there" can be anywhere...and I don't know how he's going to get from "out there" to "right here".

Another thing people like to say to me is "there is someone for everyone". I don't really believe it anymore.
Last edited by Breezy1; June 29,2010 at 3:39pm. Reason: I may believe it tomorrow though...I vacillate.
 
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howardtheduck is offline howardtheduck Post #34  June 29,2010, 6:26pm
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Ok, no shoes dropping, just enjoying the present...

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Not interested in you, but, do have a brother? or sister?
 
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SeeShore is offline SeeShore Post #35  July 1,2010, 11:43am
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Shrug. None of this would bother me, as I am happy with where I am...

What DOES bother me is when people will tell me what kind of guy I need or what I "really" want (or they think I should).
 
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meri75 is offline meri75 Post #36  July 2,2010, 5:24pm
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D_Lion wrote :
There's something to be said for deferred gratification.

Working on getting educated, establishing a good career, acheiving some investments, when young, puts a person into a position to command better partners, and better, more successful relationships.

Personally, I prefer to wait, limit myself to very good candidates, and then put greater effort into them, than simply take any available opportunity.
Good post.

The reason I find it irritating to be told 'good things come to those who wait', is because of the presumption that I am waiting. As opposed to actively having made a choice (at that time) not to get involved with a man/relationship. The condescending tone may also have contributed to my sharp retort!
 
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vapsman88 is offline vapsman88 Post #37  July 5,2010, 6:23pm
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