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I had a boyfriend a long time ago that was a piece of work. He would say and do things just to get me riled up. (Ok, I would too, but that was the way we worked) One time we had an argument (maybe just a heated discussion), after we broke up, about "what if we get back together". There was talk about either one of us dating someone else (sleeping with actually) someone else and then coming back. I made a comment that if I ever did get back together with him it would only be for sex. He wasn't happy about that.

He then said maybe he would go out with this girl that we both knew. She was a promiscuous so-and-so who I had my own issues with. I told him under no uncertain terms that if he ever touched her he would never be touching me, ever. I was absolutely serious.

In fact, if I met a man and found out that he had dated this particular person, I would break it off. Long story short, she confided in me one time that she had a certain incurable STD. So, there is no way in this world I would ever expose myself to this. Plus, she's a drama queen who claims vindication for the smallest of slights (or none at all).

So, are there people in your past who, if you knew they had dated a potential match for you, would make you end it? This isn't about the class or status of a person, but what you know about this person.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  June 21,2010, 10:25am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I once had a thread that was similar to this one which referred to how the main character in the movie 'Office Space' was distraught after finding out his gf had dated/slept with 'Lumberg' (another character in the movie).

What I can say for myself is that in the past when I've found out certain women had dated men I had a low regard for I found this to be a big turn off. Though, probably with time this would tend to wear off.
 
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Absolutely. If I were dating a woman who I found out slept with certain people I know, I would break off the relationship immediately.
 
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yeahitsme is offline yeahitsme Post #4  June 23,2010, 10:34pm
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jayjay wrote :
I once had a thread that was similar to this one which referred to how the main character in the movie 'Office Space' was distraught after finding out his gf had dated/slept with 'Lumberg' (another character in the movie).

What I can say for myself is that in the past when I've found out certain women had dated men I had a low regard for I found this to be a big turn off. Though, probably with time this would tend to wear off.
Happened on Seinfeld too, Jerry breaks up with a girl because Neuman had previously dated (and broken up with) her. His thought was that if the girl wasn't good enough for somebody like his worst enemy, then there must be something really wrong with her.

Kind of makes you wonder how important your "reputation" really is. And the reputations of the people you date.
 
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