marinchik is offline marinchik Post #1  June 14,2010, 3:35pm
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My name is Marina and I am new here so take it easy I met this guy on Eharmony lol and we skipped all guide communication thing and exchanged msn adresses. After we exchanges emails he right away asked me out.We are having date on Wed. Problem is he stopped talking to me on msn, even when he sees me online he doesn't start talking to me. I feel I always have to be the first one who starts talking to him. Guys question for you, is this one of those things where guys bond in person and not through msn messenger? What is his problem, why he can't just say hi, how are you? Am I looking to much into it? For instance, we were talking one nightand he said to me "my battery is dying, gotta go" and today while we were talking he said to me "Oh my battery is duying and I am going out for dinner" that was 3 hours ago and he is still online only his status is busy now???? If he doesn't like me, he wouldn't ask me out right?Looking forward your answers. Very confused.
 
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I never communicate via "chat" or "text message."

I will usually tolerate a couple of brief phone calls, if the woman demands it (unless I get bored and give up on her.)

I will reply to her e-mails, but rarely author my own, once a meeting is agreed.

The point of dating sites is to date, not have pen pals with imaginary non-people using electronic devices.

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That said, you appear to have a different problem. This person might be lying.

You can not determine that from "being online," however, since people may simply leave their computer running (I do.)

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He has no reason to like you until he sees you and gets to know you, which will not begin until meeting.

It is possible he is lonely, and you are simply the next person in line who replied to him.

Keep in mind, that you also need to decide if you like him - which is the thing you should be thinking of, when you meet.
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marinchik is offline marinchik Post #3  June 14,2010, 4:14pm
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Thanks for your reply. You are right, how can he like me if we never met? For whaterver reason, I can't explain, I like him. ODD.Thanks anyway.
 
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He has made a date with you, but he doesn't know you yet. He may be looking for other potential dates, or be may just be chatting with friends and family (if you are looking at his MSN "active" sign).

It's also possible that he doesn't like chatting online. Lots of people don't feel comfortable with the immediacy of that process, and/or their typing skills aren't up to the task.

Don't read too much into it. Wait until you have met him and then see how things go. If he still seems guarded and/or distant, its probably not a good match for you.
 
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My today's date got canceled. here the letter I got: was wondering if we could reschedule for our date night if that's ok. When I got into work today I see that my secretary booked a couple of clients for the afternoon. It may be better if we do it at night or on a weekend, so that this does not happen again.
Again I apologize for this, however I guess that is the price when you have a private practice.
Best,Andrew"
I did ask him to meet me at 3 o'clock. Is it bad sign or not too bad because he asked to reschedule it?
 
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marinchik wrote :
I did ask him to meet me at 3 o'clock. Is it bad sign or not too bad because he asked to reschedule it?
Not a bad sign at all but he should have offered up more concrete options to choose from as alternates. Call him back give him a couple times / days when it's convenient for you.
 
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I would not read anything into it since he offered to reschedule. Just let him know which weekend day would work best for you.

As for the whole messenger thing - personally, I hate it. I'd rather talk to the person on the phone for a minute than spend 10 minutes typing a conversation. Also, if it's during the day, it can be highly disruptive to work and other things I have going on. Just because I happen to be on, does not mean I have the time to actually talk to you. Try not to bother him too often even if you see he is on.

Ultimately, as someone else already pointed out, until you've met in person, you really don't have anything going on.
 
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