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AndieIsMe is online now AndieIsMe — Advice Member-Moderator Post #11  June 8,2010, 12:57pm
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I'm very good at apologizing. As long as the person receiving the apology is good at receiving that apology. If I sense they are closed to me, will throw an "I told you so" back at me or will do something else to make me feel like I apologized in vain, I won't do it.

I have found that sometimes making an apology can be the quickest way to end an argument, even when I'm not wrong. I will always apologize for my action that are mean or hurtful. I won't ever apologize for standing up for myself or my family or for holding the factually correct opinion on something.
 
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I apologize easily, but I only do it with people who are equally humble enough to be able to apologize for their mistakes. It means my good relationships are great and my bad ones are frustrating. I have gotten to the point in my life where I no longer choose to have relationships with people who believe they are always right. It's much easier this way.
 
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PY, ISM, and Jacques I find a man who can admit fault to be very sexy.

J had a silly accident with his car he showed it to me and admitted he was careless and something about that was so sexy. I like a man who is okay with showing me he is not perfect.
 
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tjlpd wrote :
PY, ISM, and Jacques I find a man who can admit fault to be very sexy.

J had a silly accident with his car he showed it to me and admitted he was careless and something about that was so sexy. I like a man who is okay with showing me he is not perfect.
I'm sorry it was totally my fault!!
 
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I'm sorry it was totally my fault!!
Smoochies for you!
 
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Many women don't apologize to men, they explain very nicely to us why we're wrong.

And you know what is weird? A lot of the times we are wrong.
 
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Breezy1 wrote :
Okay, let me explain to you what was wrong about this post

Number one.....

Do I get a spanking now 'cause I'm wrong?

tjlpd wrote :
PY, ISM, and Jacques I find a man who can admit fault to be very sexy.

J had a silly accident with his car he showed it to me and admitted he was careless and something about that was so sexy. I like a man who is okay with showing me he is not perfect.
Woot! We're sexaay! *hugs tj*

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And you know what is weird? A lot of the times we are wrong.
I'm never wrong. I took an eH quiz that said so. And don't read my reply to Breezy!
 
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I've been getting better at it. When I was growing up, I always had to be right, but at some point I learned the value of looking at things from someone else's point of view. I say, for most arguments, both people are somewhat in the wrong. The trick is in figuring out what you did wrong and apologizing first. Then, you can usually diffuse things enough to get at the real problem (whether that was caused by you or not). If the other person can't calm down or reciprocate, then you either need to give them more time, or find someone new to be with.
 
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Avalon1k wrote :
And you know what is weird? A lot of the times we are wrong.
You're right!
Last edited by PY_2; June 9,2010 at 8:47am. Reason: Good thing you didn't say 'always' cause that would've made you wrong again!!
 
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You're right!
No I'm not!
 
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