Girls ~ how appealing is the role of 1950s housewife to you?


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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #1  June 7,2010, 10:59am

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So, fascinated by the whole independent woman thing, I thought this would be interesting.

If you could find 1950s guy; manly, dependable, successful and well paid who gave you the option of staying home and being his 1950s wife and homemaker, would you do it?

You get just as much disposable income as you've got now, go on vacation as often as you do now, spend just as much on clothes and beauty as you do now and you still see your girlfriends as much but for lunch not evening cocktails.

But you do have to keep house; do all the cleaning, cooking and washing and ironing, if there's kids you raise them too (no help from Daddy but he does bounce them on his knee a bit and read them a goodnight story). You spend your free time looking pretty and doing things to help him feel like king of his castle when he comes home from a hard days work.

Would you do it?
 
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Wait, I want a house wife/hubby.
Only I'll be the queen of the castle.
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
So, fascinated by the whole independent woman thing, I thought this would be interesting.

If you could find 1950s guy; manly, dependable, successful and well paid who gave you the option of staying home and being his 1950s wife and homemaker, would you do it?

You get just as much disposable income as you've got now, go on vacation as often as you do now, spend just as much on clothes and beauty as you do now and you still see your girlfriends as much but for lunch not evening cocktails.

But you do have to keep house; do all the cleaning, cooking and washing and ironing, if there's kids you raise them too (no help from Daddy but he does bounce them on his knee a bit and read them a goodnight story). You spend your free time looking pretty and doing things to help him feel like king of his castle when he comes home from a hard days work.

Would you do it?
Isn't this what every woman is looking for, minus the having to actually have any responsibilities at all? (especially the looking pretty part - isn't the point of marriage breaking out the bon bons and letting one's self go?)
 
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1950s wife is a figment of imagination.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #5  June 7,2010, 11:24am

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ThePriestess wrote :
1950s wife is a figment of imagination.
So is 1950s husband ~ which ultimately, is my point.
 
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I could probably do it, if i was bolstered by a continuing supply of martinis, benzodiazapines and benzadrine.

sooo... no.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #7  June 7,2010, 11:29am
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hankscorpio wrote :
Isn't this what every woman is looking for, minus the having to actually have any responsibilities at all? (especially the looking pretty part - isn't the point of marriage breaking out the bon bons and letting one's self go?)

I never saw June Cleaver do that.
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
So is 1950s husband ~ which ultimately, is my point.
So, my fantasy will never happen.
 
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Isn't this what every woman is looking for, minus the having to actually have any responsibilities at all? (especially the looking pretty part - isn't the point of marriage breaking out the bon bons and letting one's self go?)
You think a woman who cares for the home, children and everything but having a job doesn't have responsibilities? You do the job for a week or so and then come back and say that.

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So, fascinated by the whole independent woman thing, I thought this would be interesting.

If you could find 1950s guy; manly, dependable, successful and well paid who gave you the option of staying home and being his 1950s wife and homemaker, would you do it?

You get just as much disposable income as you've got now, go on vacation as often as you do now, spend just as much on clothes and beauty as you do now and you still see your girlfriends as much but for lunch not evening cocktails.

But you do have to keep house; do all the cleaning, cooking and washing and ironing, if there's kids you raise them too (no help from Daddy but he does bounce them on his knee a bit and read them a goodnight story). You spend your free time looking pretty and doing things to help him feel like king of his castle when he comes home from a hard days work.

Would you do it?
Here's the thing with this particular scenario. It works for some people. They are the poster children for co-dependence, but a healthy one. Using June and Ward Cleaver as my example here is how I see it. If they ever got divorced June would have a better chance at surviving in the world and might marry more quickly than Ward. She has the skills to run a house, probably within a budget as well. Ward would have to hire everything out. Do you really think he could clean and iron his own shirts or cook a decent meal? He never learned how.

I wouldn't want exactly what you describe. I get cabin fever quickly and would have to have some part time job or other scheduled activities outside the home.

I know of a woman that was almost what you describe. She is much older, her husband died a few years ago. She never learned how to drive. When offered lessons from her husband and children, she declined. She was happy getting around town by foot and would have her husband drive her when she needed to go somewhere farther than walking distance. Even after he husband died she didn't want to learn to drive. She kept up the home, yard, raised the kids, etc. Her hubby was a bit of an old cranky guy, but when I knew him he was on Kidney Dialysis, so probably rightfully so. She was crafty and made all kinds of interesting things from old stuff. As far as I know, she never had a job outside the home. She's was/is happy and seems very content with how her life has been lived.

ThePriestess wrote :
1950s wife is a figment of imagination.
The fictionalized, idealized image projected on 1950's TV is not real, but there were women who only stayed home and were quite happy with it.
 
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No Trixie, I wouldn't.

I do know some women, modern late-20th early 21st century women, who have made that choice though. I think they are no happier or unhappier than other women.

Some people want that life, and it works for them.
 
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