Misogyny, truth or fiction?

I've been studying sexual psychology, human sexual evolution, and cultural anthropology in relation to human courtship behaviors. These sciences in relation to subjective self interpretation of ones feelings seem to be contradictory. Basically what I am asking is; are women lying? Most posts relating to what women want in a man mention something along the line of "I'm looking for my prince charming. I want love and devotion. I want a nice guy who will provide emotional support and stability." Perplexingly, observed behavior in courtship has displayed far different results in what is sexually attractive to a woman.

I will use my best friend as a simple example of this anomaly. A woman will have a boyfriend or a husband. She will be at a social gathering of your choice, with or without the aforementioned "hubby." He can nearly instantaneously attract her and bed her within that night of meeting her. He is ultra confident and suave, but undeniably non empathetic to her needs. Not only is she cheating, but shes contradicting herself and her said desirable qualities in a man.

I believe that this behavior stems from a combination of cultural teachings that are inherently hypocritical, combined with what women actually find sexually attractive from a scientific perspective. Also we are programmed to desire what we cannot attain, to survive better and beat all odds. So a woman wants a nice guy, but desires a bad guy.

This could theoretically be satisfied by having dual partners; an alpha and a beta. The alpha is genetically superior (or perceived to be) whilst the beta is the provider and emotional support she needs. Because these two archetypes cannot exist in the same individual, a woman cannot be satisfied by only having one. One man to have sex with one lesser man to cuddle with.

This does not seem to be the case for men, since men base sexual attraction and love/intimacy on the same paradigm while women cannot. A possible explanation of why women want to wait for sex (of course only in certain instances) is that they are simply not sexually attracted to the beta they want to provide for them. Since they are not sexually aroused they will not desire sex, so in essence, whats the point of having it? Some studies have been done that show women are more likely to cheat during their peak of ovulation, when they are most fertile, to ensure the alpha's seed will impregnate her.

I hypothesize that women withhold sex from certain men simply because they don't desire sex from them. These relationship men, or betas, are there to help raise children and provide resources for the woman, as the alpha will not due to their narcissism and disregard of others feelings (a fallback of being ultra confident.) If an alpha were able to display beta qualities he would then become beta, and thus no longer be sexually attractive. So the question is this; how often does this happen? PLEASE be honest. This is for the sake of understanding not bashing people.

How nice. Whats observable in the real world is the only thing that matters. I understand the alpha/beta BS is beaten over everyone's head, especially in the seduction community, but seriously... I've SEEN it happen.