Men ~ do you want us to need you or for us to be independent?


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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #1  June 5,2010, 4:39pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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I've been on another thread and this is meant to be a snappy little piece of research.

So if you were reading a profile or flirting with a woman in the flesh, and she wrote / uttered the following

independent OR need


Which one do you prefer? Which one gives you the horrors? What's your perception of her in each case?
 
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annother is offline annother Post #2  June 5,2010, 6:22pm
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*sound of crickets chirping*
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
I've been on another thread and this is meant to be a snappy little piece of research.

So if you were reading a profile or flirting with a woman in the flesh, and she wrote / uttered the following

independent OR need


Which one do you prefer? Which one gives you the horrors? What's your perception of her in each case?
Ummm.... huh?
 
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RoxyRedhead is offline RoxyRedhead Post #4  June 5,2010, 7:58pm

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Geez--I get to be who I get to be.

If who I am isn't what a guy wants-then he can find another woman...... and likewise I look for a man who suits my style.

I sure don't intend on changing who I am (independent and self sufficient) because a guy wants to be needed.

Nor do I expect a man to change who he is.

There are different kinds of personalities available to suit the needs of each of us-some women want to be wanted, need to be needed and need a man to care for them or take care of them. Some men emphasize in their profiles that they want a "ladylike woman who is gentle and looking for a man to take care of her"- I read this all the time!

But it ain't me, babe. I look for the man who wants a woman who can take care of herself, isn't needy and doesn't want a clingy man either.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #5  June 5,2010, 8:32pm
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Yay! spring has sprung.

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annother wrote :
*sound of crickets chirping*
So typical.
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melman is offline melman Post #6  June 5,2010, 8:38pm
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The OP makes no sense. I don't understand the question.
 
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Mr79percent is offline Mr79percent Post #7  June 5,2010, 8:42pm
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livenlearn wrote :
So typical.
I'd rather a woman express that she was independent rather than needy, but that's mainly because I travel for work a lot. I'd like to think she can be happy and keep herself amused when I'm away. The downside is "independent" can hint at aloofness, or emotionally distant. We don't want a ballbreaker CEO as a mate, we want something closer to June Cleaver.
 
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I don't care much about how much or how little a woman needs.

I care that she be honest about when she does need help.

I can't relate to preferring someone to need me in any certain way.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #9  June 5,2010, 9:14pm
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Mr79percent wrote :
I'd rather a woman express that she was independent rather than needy, but that's mainly because I travel for work a lot. I'd like to think she can be happy and keep herself amused when I'm away. The downside is "independent" can hint at aloofness, or emotionally distant. We don't want a ballbreaker CEO as a mate, we want something closer to June Cleaver.
Yes Ward dear. I will be right here in my pumps and dress keeping the home fires burnin for ya.
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I like independent women. Neediness smacks of co-dependency. I like women who can do things with me, but who are not clingy.
 
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