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Are you really a grown-up? - CNN.com

Do you agree with the list of things that make someone a "grown up"? If not, what do you think is missing from the list, or is on the list but not representative of what is means to really be an adult?

Also...based on the criteria listed in this article, are you a "grown up"? If not, what areas do you still need to master (according to the article)?
 
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Hmmm... The list is pretty nebulous; how do you interpret or operationalize each of the items? That will make a big difference in how to calculate whether someone has met each criterion.

That being said, I think it sets such a high standard that few people completely meet it (maybe nobody can say that they have achieved all of those standards all of the time...). There isn't anything on that list for which I can't say that I have both succeeded and failed (and will no doubt do so again in the future).

To me, being an adult in large part simply means that you take full responsibility for your choices/decisions and actions in life and their consequences (even where choices were passively made, as so many decisions are...).
 
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Apparently, I am a grown up (based on those questions). That surprises me as I'm still a kid at heart.
 
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Yep........ but according to that list (and finding age appropriate equivalences like 'education' for 'career') then I know a few ten year olds who are also, apparently, grown ups.

It's weird, when you're a kid you think it'll be all about freedom and self deterimined outcomes to every situation and adulthood creeps up on you and you rarely feel consicously in control of your own destiny.

Adult style responsibilities like mortgages and relationships and career choices, for me at least, have compounded my sense of being a teeny tiny cog in a giant machine and robbed me of any sense of adult maturity.

Strangely, I only truly feel like a grown up when I'm sitting by myself in a cafe, sipping a coffee and reading a paper or when I'm strolling around a new city all by myself. Top trump is reading in a cafe in a new city all by myself but you get the idea.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #5  June 5,2010, 3:45pm

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i'm a grown up
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #6  June 5,2010, 4:02pm

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PY_2 wrote :
i'm a grown up
No you aint.

Tick, you're it............................... [runs away pulling a face at PY who is now supposed to play chase for a couple of hours before going in for orange squash, which will leave a little juice moustache on both of our faces]
 
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I agree that the lack of specific definitions makes this list almost worthless. What the heck is "dynamic communication"?

Anyway, based on the most general of terms, no. I'm not a grownup.

So, there. I stick my tongue out at the world. ;P
 
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You get to be a fully loaded grown-up, Kaiser writes: "One who knows when to get down to business and when to lighten up; can bounce back from life's little spills while not blaming someone else for the mess; and most important, comes equipped with the ability to accelerate through any roadblock to success and happiness."


Based on the criteria, I would say I am an imperfect grown-up. Still dealing with some roadblocks, but getting through them one day at a time.
 
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neardc wrote :
Hmmm... The list is pretty nebulous; how do you interpret or operationalize each of the items? That will make a big difference in how to calculate whether someone has met each criterion.
What a Lovely word: operationalize! Have to try to use it.

Now, the handy list, missing from the OP:

• Face life's challenges head-on.
• Make peace with your body.
• Take responsibility for your heart.
• Build a meaningful career.
• Learn how to handle the tough times.
• Face your anxieties.
• Take ownership of your finances.
• Master the use of your time.
• Practice dynamic communication.
• Find the right level of flexibility.

Since most of these can be answered - if not, are best answered - with "Beer," I must be doing something right.
 
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I'm so grown up I'm almost dead! lol.

Most of these issues are something that keep getting deeper and more faceted as time goes by. Not like you wake up some morning and BLAM! Finally! Grown up!

One thing that's not on the list is "differentiation" -- a psychobabble term, meaning "ability to understand each person is their own universe, and does not think or feel exactly like I do, and is equally as valid as I am".
 
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