Has Your Lack of Dating Made You Bitter?


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Dafearon is offline Dafearon Post #31  June 7,2010, 1:32pm
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I forgot to answer the post.

No. Lack of dating hasn't made me bitter. I was bitter once, but i'm better now.

I have embraced the concept of free will. People are free to choose against me and I will not hold that against them. I have chosen against people myself and don't feel like i did anything wrong, so its fair both ways.
 
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Yes, I would say I'm bitter. 20 years of trying and constantly being rejected makes you feel unwanted, unnattractive, and useless. Now I'm 40 now and its pretty much too late to meet anyone and start a family. I've never dated anyone and never had a girlfriend.
Over the years I've always been looked over because I didn't drive a fancy car, I wasn't "hot" enough, I didn't have a lot of money and I didn't have a good enough or glamorous enough job. I treated women with respect and I was caring. I learned various skills so that if I did meet someone I could understand what they felt and I could help. Well hell, drag that guy out and shoot him, we can't have guys like that roaming around.
After a while it sort of hurts being told that it will be hard finding someone here, maybe I should think of getting a mail order bride from Russia or the Phillipines because their standards will be much less. Thanks for the vote of confidence people.
I told a married friend of mine that I should walk up to the next women I liked and punch her in the head. If being nice, caring and an all around good person makes you a monster, maybe I should try being a jerk. It sure was the answer for the rest of the guys out there.
Maybe I should start treating women like a bedpost notch. Women seem to absolutely love those guys.
This is how I feel when men overlook heavy women. Barbie is a beeaaaoooch! Ok, you have to know I'm being funny here. I'm not saying all physically fit women are beaoches. So, I hope noone is offended. My point is that often heavy women get overlooked because they don't fit into the dream category, just like nice men get overlooked for the same reason.

Ok, this is coming from a heavy woman, so not sure if you can take it, but there are women (myself included) that really really would adore a nice guy.

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I'm not bitter. Just more cautious.

If I ask for a phone number, and I can tell she gives it to me reluctantly, I will not call it.

If she cancels, I will wait to hear from her again.

I also don't ever ask too many questions that require specific answers when on a date.
 
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greg75 wrote :
Well has it?

Do you feel that your lack of getting dates (or dating on a regular basis) has left you with a cynical outlook on life? And because you may display a more bitter outlook on things, has this in turn also crippled your chance at success in your love life?
Nope, I just need to get better at spotting vampires - women who suck the life out of me.
 
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Nope, I just need to get better at spotting vampires - women who suck the life out of me.
So I should go out on dates armed with a wooden stake?

Now THAT is a conversation starter.
 
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Maybe a little... there was mostly frustration. Most of my attempts at dating ended up with me being stuck in the friend zone, as I was really confused about what a woman wanted in a man.

But now there really isn't bitterness or anger - or "negative feelings" - I've just been really, really, jaded. I've been hurt a number of times just like anybody else - it's not unique, its just I don't have any success stories. (24 - never been on a date) For some reason, it's almost like I am no longer attracted to women, yet I'm awaiting the day I meet this person that may not even exist - or maybe I am still bitter and am throwing up this post as a subconscious defensive mechanism to continually perpetuate my denial of bitterness.
 
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