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I have been a paid subscriber to eharmony for 3 months now, and have had virtually no communication. A thought just crossed my mind...could it be the job I have listed that turns guys off? Has anyone closed a match because of their job? By the way, I'm listed as an "executive housekeeper".
- May 26th, 2008, 06:58 pm
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I can't see why that would turn ALL guys off. Some would probably love it. Lack of communication is a common problem on eH, believe me you're not alone. Why do think so many of us spend all this time on the advice site? lol
- May 26th, 2008, 07:29 pm
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It could just be where you are from....Bracebridge I dont know that there would be that many matches there and surrounding area....you should broden the distance to include Toronto and I bet you will get a ton of matches....I get about 10/day.
- May 26th, 2008, 08:05 pm
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pocket_full_of_sunshine wrote :
It could just be where you are from....Bracebridge I dont know that there would be that many matches there and surrounding area....you should broden the distance to include Toronto and I bet you will get a ton of matches....I get about 10/day.
It isn't so much the number of matches I get that's bugging me...I average 5/day. No, the issue for me is that despite the number of icebreakers sent, nobody is responding. Just wondering what others thought of the job thing..and if anyone had closed out a match because they listed their job as 'sanitation tech', 'janitor', etc.
- May 26th, 2008, 08:11 pm
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Try being a physician...despite my sending first questions to loads of men, no one has responded. Is my job my problem? I get a fair number of matches (not 5 a day for sure) and a few views a week, but no answers. They don't close me either. What gives?
- August 2nd, 2008, 08:40 am
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I think it is the eH system more than the job. What does your profile say? I think that is more important than what you do. Also most members are not paying so they can not contact you.
- August 2nd, 2008, 10:02 am
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I agree with Japaneseblue eyes, try studying other parts of your profile with a critical eye. For example: How many pictures do you have? Are they close ups etc?
- August 2nd, 2008, 11:56 am
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pocket_full_of_sunshine wrote :
It could just be where you are from....Bracebridge I dont know that there would be that many matches there and surrounding area....you should broden the distance to include Toronto and I bet you will get a ton of matches....I get about 10/day.*
It isn't so much the number of matches I get that's bugging me...I average 5/day. No, the issue for me is that despite the number of icebreakers sent, nobody is responding. Just wondering what others thought of the job thing..and if anyone had closed out a match because they listed their job as 'sanitation tech', 'janitor', etc.
I'd suggest that you not bother with the ice breakers. I think they send the signal that you're not quite confident enough to go after what you want. Personally, if a guy sends me an ice breaker, I tend to disregard him. I'll look at his profile, but unless he's something really, really special, I'll probably not respond. I want a guy whose confident enough to contact me, not test the waters first. I also agree with the comments about looking at your profile with a critical eye. Really tell them who you are, what you like and what you're looking for in a partner. I can't emphasize enough the need to exude confidence. Also, I agree with the idea of casting a wider net. Once I did that, I was getting so many matches I couldn't keep up with them! And many of them were in my area. I think if you make those changes, assuming you need to, you'll find your experience with eH much more fun. Just my two cents... not worth much these days. (smile)
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pocket_full_of_sunshine wrote :
It could just be where you are from....Bracebridge I dont know that there would be that many matches there and surrounding area....you should broden the distance to include Toronto and I bet you will get a ton of matches....I get about 10/day.*
It isn't so much the number of matches I get that's bugging me...I average 5/day. No, the issue for me is that despite the number of icebreakers sent, nobody is responding. Just wondering what others thought of the job thing..and if anyone had closed out a match because they listed their job as 'sanitation tech', 'janitor', etc.
I'd suggest that you not bother with the ice breakers. I think they send the signal that you're not quite confident enough to go after what you want. Personally, if a guy sends me an ice breaker, I tend to disregard him. I'll look at his profile, but unless he's something really, really special, I'll probably not respond. I want a guy whose confident enough to contact me, not test the waters first. I also agree with the comments about looking at your profile with a critical eye. Really tell them who you are, what you like and what you're looking for in a partner. I can't emphasize enough the need to exude confidence. Also, I agree with the idea of casting a wider net. Once I did that, I was getting so many matches I couldn't keep up with them! And many of them were in my area. I think if you make those changes, assuming you need to, you'll find your experience with eH much more fun. Just my two cents... not worth much these days. (smile)
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I was moderated for suggesting that you really evaluate whether or not you're suggesting that you're confident through your profile. When you go through it with a "critical eye" be sure to look at if for exuding a sense of confidence. I think that will help a lot. Also, I wouldn't spend time with the ice breakers. I think they don't do much for the confidence factor. I agree with the wider net theory! It worked wonders for me. I'm hoping my other post will show up,.
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