Sparkles56 is offline Sparkles56 Post #31  July 24,2011, 9:15am
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niqht wrote :
Much of that list is a load of BS
Tell us why - what don't you like about it?
 
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So my question is, if after reading this you know why things didn't work out with the last person you dated? Is there a chance of getting them back if you can prove you have changed or is it a lost cause?
 
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So my question is, if after reading this you know why things didn't work out with the last person you dated? Is there a chance of getting them back if you can prove you have changed or is it a lost cause?
I think there's always hope. But I wouldn't try convincing her of anything until you get plenty of practice under your belt doing it differently with other women.
 
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I think there's always hope. But I wouldn't try convincing her of anything until you get plenty of practice under your belt doing it differently with other women.
Thanks, that is helpful and encouraging. I just hope I can apply what I have realized/learned and burn the bridges of the past.
 
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niqht is offline niqht Post #35  July 24,2011, 11:34am
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Sparkles56 wrote :
Tell us why - what don't you like about it?
Ya, I knew that would be coming, but on top of being hard to read the screwed up formatting I'm still busy getting everything in order at home for a date tonight.
Will get to it at some point..
 
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Ya, I knew that would be coming, but on top of being hard to read the screwed up formatting I'm still busy getting everything in order at home for a date tonight.
Will get to it at some point..
You're absolutely right that it's a load of BS. The first point is the title "Real Man". By the description, that "Real Man" will also step over the lines and be rude and obnoxious. It's a very, very, very finely thin line between cocky and arrogant.

I went to a different church once and the "Homily" was "The Measure of a Man." And for all intents and purposes, the "Real Man" would tend to be the "Nice Guy" because he is the one that will stick through the good times and the bad, do what a "Gentleman" is supposed to do, which is to ensure that everyone is happy and comfortable, and stand up for what is right.

The "Real Man" talked about here is the one that will be a c-blocker for his own gains just because he may feel he "deserves her more." He's the one that will depress women and send them to the "Nice Guy" to cry on his shoulder. He's a user.

Bottom line, when women are finished with the "Real Man" and want to get married, they'll gravitate to the "Nice Guy." Why is that? That's the question that needs answering. So who really is the "Real Man?" And what about those that fall in between?

Statement: Retitle this "Nice Man vs. Bad Boy" because it boils down to that once the adjectives are removed; Man vs. Boy.
 
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