chawks64 is offline chawks64 Post #11  April 12,2010, 4:18pm
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I think it just furthers whichever direction the realtionship was going.

If one person already had doubts or misgivings, then it doesn't exactly help to show how life still goes on without them. But if both people are really getting further and further into the relationship, it can make them realize how important the other person is in their life.
 
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chawks64 wrote :
I think it just furthers whichever direction the realtionship was going.

If one person already had doubts or misgivings, then it doesn't exactly help to show how life still goes on without them. But if both people are really getting further and further into the relationship, it can make them realize how important the other person is in their life.
Interesting point chawks, thanks! We've only been out once because he travels a LOT for work and haven't worked out the next time we'll see each other. This time he is out of the country so communication is more of a challenge. He's only going to be gone 5 days (and it's already been 3), so hopefully I'm not totally forgetable in that amount of time.
 
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Sassafras54 wrote :
Perhaps with an established relationship, missing the other person reinforces love?

But in a newer more tentative relationship, without continuing new input and growth, it fades or spins off into fantasy?
I think that is the heart of it. Those two types of different situations.

I think sometimes bad timing can ruin (or put on hold) the momentum of a new budding relationship. I think there is a building of a force of attraction that needs to keep growing when we meet someone new that we hit it off with until it gets to a certain, sustainable level. If the building of the momentum gets slowed downed somehow, it may cause problems. Sometimes, bad timing interrupts the growing of that momentum. It still does not mean momentum can not begin growing again, just sometimes, you can't do that from a distance and trying to, can cause more harm than good.

But waiting, does not cause any harm (at least, I don't think so). I think if guys really, really like you (like we want to be liked), they will make the effort...when they are in a position to make the effort. So how does waiting hurt?...of course, I could be completely wrong. lol! So hopefully some men pipe up and tell me if I am completely off-base in thinking this is the case.
 
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