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techdiva is offline techdiva Post #1  April 11,2010, 5:15pm
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For years and years, it's just been work and my sons. Dating not a priority. Now, youngest son has just received four-year scholarship to excellent university and will be gone Real Soon.

And it will be Just Me.

Trying to figure out what to do with the rest of my life. (There has to be something Out There besides work. I love what I do, but it's a pretty one-dimensional existence.)

I adore men. I would love to meet somebody special. On a whim, I joined EH...but quite honestly, I am scared to death, and seriously wondering if I belong here.

But...

Once you hit middle age, it's damn hard to meet new people -- especially new people with "dating potential." The folks I work with are almost all younger...and single, or with young families. I enjoy being around them, but this is not where I am going to find any sort of a social life.

I'm not a 22-year old super model, but I'm reasonably well preserved "for my age." Men...look. But I think the operative phrase is..."lost my mojo" and I'm not sure how to get it back.
 
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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #2  April 11,2010, 6:01pm
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techdiva wrote :

I'm not a 22-year old super model, but I'm reasonably well preserved "for my age." Men...look. But I think the operative phrase is..."lost my mojo" and I'm not sure how to get it back.
Check your basement...
I found my mojo in mine when I down there getting the Christmas decorations...

Seriously, like The Tubes said: What do you want from life?
Is it your confidence level??..
Is that what you mean by lost your mojo?
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Practice makes perfect.

I recommend starting with Kissing, and then progress from there.
 
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Buck is offline Buck Post #4  April 11,2010, 6:12pm
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Welcome techdiva (love that nickname BTW).

Lots of good womenz and menz here will assist. If it's within your comfort zone, may I suggest leaving shy and bashful at the door, and with your first post you're on the right track. It's OK to write to us guys if you see and like before we do the same.

Read away for all kinds of perspectives. You'll find you're not alone. You'll find a host of crazy people and topics. Check out roll calls on Friday and Saturday nights, until that is, you have amassed a pool of suitors and find you have no time for us anymore. I bet that after a few botched dates everything learned from those formative years will return, including the sparkle in your eyes!

Oh ... and DO NOT get depressed by those who close you. It happens, thousands of times in some cases.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Practice makes perfect.

I recommend starting with Kissing, and then progress from there.
Somehow I thought you be first in line with this suggestion.
 
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techdiva wrote :
For years and years, it's just been work and my sons. Dating not a priority. Now, youngest son has just received four-year scholarship to excellent university and will be gone Real Soon.

And it will be Just Me.

Trying to figure out what to do with the rest of my life. (There has to be something Out There besides work. I love what I do, but it's a pretty one-dimensional existence.)

I adore men. I would love to meet somebody special. On a whim, I joined EH...but quite honestly, I am scared to death, and seriously wondering if I belong here.

But...

Once you hit middle age, it's damn hard to meet new people -- especially new people with "dating potential." The folks I work with are almost all younger...and single, or with young families. I enjoy being around them, but this is not where I am going to find any sort of a social life.

I'm not a 22-year old super model, but I'm reasonably well preserved "for my age." Men...look. But I think the operative phrase is..."lost my mojo" and I'm not sure how to get it back.
Your "mojo" isn't gone. It's just hiding. A "mojo" is just a quiet subtle consciousness of a person's desirability to others, their sex appeal if you will) Have you considered a dance class (not with a partner...yet! ) one of those modern dance or jazz dance classes. It's physical, it'll feel good, and it will put you back in touch with your body consciouslness/awareness. You could also try a beginning martial arts class. An excellent workout and it'll help you see yourself in a more positive light. And, don't be so modest. Out here in Southern Cali, when a woman describes herself as "well preserved for her age" it usually means she's "smokin".
 
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techdiva wrote :
I'm not a 22-year old super model, but I'm reasonably well preserved "for my age." Men...look. But I think the operative phrase is..."lost my mojo" and I'm not sure how to get it back.
Buy new underwear! When you "feel good all under" your mojo starts to return.
 
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TheThinker wrote :
Seriously, like The Tubes said: What do you want from life?
Well, you can't have that, but if you're an American citizen you are entitled to:
a heated kidney shaped pool,
a microwave oven--don't watch the food cook,
a Dyna-Gym--I'll personally demonstrate it in the privacy of your own home,
a king-size Titanic unsinkable Molly Brown waterbed with polybendum,
a foolproof plan and an airtight alibi,
real simulated Indian jewelry,
a Gucci shoetree,
 
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techdiva wrote :
On a whim, I joined EH...
That's probably going to add to your frustration.
Last edited by illustrator; April 12,2010 at 11:31am. Reason: .... non-paying members and poofers can be bad on one's self-esteem
 
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username_already_exists wrote :
Well, you can't have that, but if you're an American citizen you are entitled to:
a heated kidney shaped pool,
a microwave oven--don't watch the food cook,
a Dyna-Gym--I'll personally demonstrate it in the privacy of your own home,
a king-size Titanic unsinkable Molly Brown waterbed with polybendum,
a foolproof plan and an airtight alibi,
real simulated Indian jewelry,
a Gucci shoetree,
and...a baby's arm, holding an apple.
 
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