What do you think is a sexual assault - both men and women?

This isn't correct really. Police reports are generally a matter of public record. During an investigation phase say of a drug ring prior to cracking the case, the investigation might be closed for a time, but eventually, it is all available for public review. We don't live in a police state so you can't really arrest people in secret here.

However, most newspapers do not report the names of the victims of sex crimes except in unusual circumstances. Like in the case of Shawn Hornbeck, the fact he was missing for so long was so well-known it was then impossible to avoid identifying him as the victim in the case against Devlin.

Why don't you see an attorney Mari? He can help you understand the legal definitions as well as your options so you can decide what you really want to do about this with all the information in hand.

Sexual assault is sexual assault, whether its on a date, friends bbq or any type of setting...When one party does not want too or has said No thats it....should we be concerned???

Yeah grabbing or touching someone's booty, chest or genitalia could be considered sexual assault. I guess it depends on the context. If someone "cops a feel", then yes it's a form of sexual assault.

During a make-out session it's called progress. That's where being assertive and firm helps out. Letting the person know what your boundaries are is beneficial to you. I would think it's important to put the brakes on things early if you're feeling uncomfortable.

Technically, being touched without consent is considered assault. Be it the back, wrist, shoulder or elsewhere.