Things guys do that leave you 'uncomfortable'?


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activeteacher is offline activeteacher Post #1  April 8,2010, 6:13am
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Ladies, what things do guys do in generic social settings that leave you uncomfortable? Not on a date, but when doing social things as a group. New guy shows up, does whatever activit(ies) the group is doing, and leaves you uncomfortable. Nothing overt, like unwanted touching, kissing, or even getting into personal space. What might a guy do that leaves you feeling ‘uncomfortable’?



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One of my boyfriend's friends is a winker. It comes across as very creepy. I also find this particular guy gawking at me a few times a night. It makes me very uncomfortable. Also, I would say that generally making too much sex talk in a group with women present will make you seem creepy. Save the locker room talk for your buddies.
 
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I am going to guess that it will be most anything that a guy does
 
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There is a guy at work that always talks to you with his hands fumbling around in his pockets. It is just kinda strange. I didn't actually noticed until a bunch of ladies here pointed it out. Now I find it creepy.
 
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activeteacher wrote :
Ladies, what things do guys do in generic social settings that leave you uncomfortable? Not on a date, but when doing social things as a group. New guy shows up, does whatever activit(ies) the group is doing, and leaves you uncomfortable. Nothing overt, like unwanted touching, kissing, or even getting into personal space. What might a guy do that leaves you feeling ‘uncomfortable’?



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Oh come on, activeteacher, you must realize by now that it's not what gets done, but who does it.

For someone like me anything I do at all is creepy. Just the act of showing up is creepy.

Raising my hand and saying hello? Creepy. Looking someone in the eyes? Creepy. Standing outside waiting for the rest of the people I carpooled with to be done so we can leave? Creepy.

For a very tall, handsome, and wealthy guy everything he does is cute and funny.

Showing up and immediately telling a very dirty sexual joke? Very cute and funny. Groping women who he doesn't know and who just met him? So cute.

Remember, it's not so much what you do so much as what you are.
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sometimes, guys will rub your arm in the same spot over and over. it's annoying, and 9 times out of 1o if you shift and move away he'll move closer and continue to do it.

overall, men seem oblivious to non verbal cues.

as far a creepy- sexual innuendo that isn't clever or witty- or "flirting" which isn't really witty banter but odd statements..very creepy. invasion of personal space by a man or woman = creepy.

sometimes, and i am sure i speak for most women here- we can't even tell you exactly what made us feel uncomfortable- women's intuition is what it is. 99% of the time it's right on the money.
 
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I once asked my sister the difference between a creep and a flirt...

She said "She likes the flirt!"

But I think men can take heart from this. It isn't anything you say, or do, or are, within reason anyway, it's just whether a woman likes you. Since no one actually understands why women like or dislike any particular man, we might as well just be ourselves.

Works for me anyway...
 
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hankscorpio wrote :
Oh come on, activeteacher, you must realize by now that it's not what gets done, but who does it.

For someone like me anything I do at all is creepy. Just the act of showing up is creepy.

Raising my hand and saying hello? Creepy. Looking someone in the eyes? Creepy. Standing outside waiting for the rest of the people I carpooled with to be done so we can leave? Creepy.

For a very tall, handsome, and wealthy guy everything he does is cute and funny.

Showing up and immediately telling a very dirty sexual joke? Very cute and funny. Groping women who he doesn't know and who just met him? So cute.

Remember, it's not so much what you do so much as what you are.
sometimes, but not all the time.
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hankscorpio wrote :
For a very tall, handsome, and wealthy guy everything he does is cute and funny.
this speaks volumes on your view of women
 
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hankscorpio wrote :
Oh come on, activeteacher, you must realize by now that it's not what gets done, but who does it.

For someone like me anything I do at all is creepy. Just the act of showing up is creepy.

Raising my hand and saying hello? Creepy. Looking someone in the eyes? Creepy. Standing outside waiting for the rest of the people I carpooled with to be done so we can leave? Creepy.

For a very tall, handsome, and wealthy guy everything he does is cute and funny.

Showing up and immediately telling a very dirty sexual joke? Very cute and funny. Groping women who he doesn't know and who just met him? So cute.

Remember, it's not so much what you do so much as what you are.
The tall, handsome, wealthy guy in this example sounds exceptionally creepy to me.

Inappropriate sexual humour? Not cute and funny at all. Touching someone who passed out? Creepy! Groping women he just met? Again, not cute, funny, lovely, nice, pleasant, or anything even remotely positive.

But that's just me.
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