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I was able to filter my matches and limit to those with compatible views.
Do you remember how exactly you put the question to make sure it's completely non-offensive and yet would get a direct response (like asking how often do they go, etc.)?
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My date asked if I went to church as we were driving past one. I think once a general question is asked, most women volunteer a lot of information without asking anything further.
 
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My date asked if I went to church as we were driving past one. I think once a general question is asked, most women volunteer a lot of information without asking anything further.
Yeah, but this is at a later stage. Spider said she filtered them at earlier stages, if I understood correctly. So I was wondering how to ask it best.
 
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Hi ms.VB Girl,

In that case, why dont you ask him to accompany you to go to the church together? just ask if he interest, and proof that the church is not the place for a lonesome single , but its good for a lonely soul ;").. either go to his church or your church its okay for the first move.

good luck for you VB Girl *^
 
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I know of a case of a man and a woman of different faiths who were apparently in deep love and thought of marriage. It made me wonder why the opposition to the marriage was religion coming from the non-practicing mother of the man.
 
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Yeah, but this is at a later stage. Spider said she filtered them at earlier stages, if I understood correctly. So I was wondering how to ask it best.
If you really want to filter this topic early, then I would generally put your church going habits in your profile. If it doesn't match theirs, they will filter you out. Good luck!
 
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cal_dude wrote :
Do you remember how exactly you put the question to make sure it's completely non-offensive and yet would get a direct response (like asking how often do they go, etc.)?

This was on eH, and the system may have changed somewhat since I was a member. As I recall, I was able to mark which religion categories/affiliations I would accept matches from, and there was probably also an importance setting for religion or religious attendance.

At the time, you could set for "any" religion, "no" religion, or select only certain religions and/or denominations.

Without eH, obviously, your filtering will have to be done in person.
 
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You can filter for religion, but not for how actively religious you are. So, if you state 'Christian' with a high value on it, you'll get mostly (or only) those who self-identify as Christian, but that will still include people who were raised Christian but no longer practice. At least, that's how I'm remembering it.

If you clearly identify the importance of religion in your profile, though, it's likely that the casual Christians will filter you out if you're not interested in a relatioship, for example, where only one of the couple attends church regularly (which worked fine for my parents, FWIW).
 
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