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newbie40something is offline newbie40something Post #11  April 6,2010, 2:18pm
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For someone that was extremely shy as a young person, I am very good at small talk.

I use humor a lot. It comes naturally. (not that you can tell here) I love being upbeat and engaging someone. I try to bring in their own personal "stuff."

I may have a phone conversation tonight with a match, so wish me luck. He says he's shy, so hopefully he can bring a little to the conversation too.
 
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I'm pretty good at small talk. Talking to people, whether in small groups, large audiences, or individually, has always come easily to me.

It's often said that you should get people to talk about themselves because people love it. I think this is an oversimplification. People don't really want to talk about themselves per se; they want to talk about things that interest them. So, if you ask questions that lead them to tell you a little about themselves, you will be able to steer a conversation toward topics that they are interested in. For example, in my work, I talk to school administrators daily. I often ask them what they taught before they became an administrator. This often leads to a point where all I really have to do is nod and smile.
 
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Etiquette provides a an answer. One of the responsibilities of a guest is to bring some conversation. Preparation ahead of time, ensuring that you have something of interest to say is considered polite. Writing it down on a piece of paper, and checking it during the occasion, not so much.
 
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I am a natrually reserved very shy person. However, with age and experience I have been able to pretend to be somewhat outgoing. It's really not that hard, you just say whatever comes to your mind instead of keeping your mouth closed thinking "I better not say what I was thinking about saying because I'll probably sound stupid". No one is really going to tell you that you sound stupid, even if they think it. Even if they do think it, who are they anyway? Are they really any better than you that it matters? Small talk is really quiter easy, and this is coming from a shy guy. Just say what's on your mind. Alcohoal helps, I might add. For extra pointers, watch Californication. Hank Moody is THE man when it comes to hooking up with the ladies. When in doubt, do what ever Hank Moody would do.
 
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