Oregon_Coast_Guy is offline Oregon_Coast_Guy Post #1  April 4,2010, 6:43pm
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Ok, I'm going to try to make a long story short.

I was at my favorite neighborhood bar on Friday night just to relax, nurse a couple of beers, have some food and listen to a band play that I knew one of the members.

In walks a group of people within 2-3 years of my age. Among them is a decently attractive woman, who has hapened to have had a few. She then comes over and wants to drunkenly dance in the aisle with me. I do this for about 10 seconds, not wanting to do more as it was in the aisle and not the little dance floor.

We then introduce ourselves, and she tells me she and one of her friends are doctors, and that she is on call, and that is why she was checking her phone. She asks me where more of my friends are, and I just say they just arent there. She asks me if I have a dog, to which I reply I have a cat. Then she says to me that she really isn't a very nice person, to which I replied that she didn't have to pretend to be nice to me. After asking what she was drinking, she walked away and left shortly afterwards.

I ask a friend that stayed behind what the deal was, and they replied she was a vet.

My question to the ladies is this: Alcohol aside, why would you just go up to a guy and say something of thiat nature? (I'm talking about the part where she said she wasn't a nice person.) I had very minimal interest to begin with and then hearing she was on call and drinking was the clinching dealbreaker. So why go out of the way to make a rejection effort?
 
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That's just... odd. Maybe she was a little more drunk than she let on? It doesn't make any sense to me.
 
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She was drunk. Drunk people aren't known for their strong judgment skills. Obviously she doesn't make very good decisions when she isn't drunk, either (if you're on call, you don't drink).

Drinking aside as you requested, I don't think most people would go up to a person and say something of that nature. Women aren't stupid. Men aren't stupid. Drunk people can be very stupid.
 
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I have done this. a) I was not drunk; and b) the person to whom I was speaking was someone I had known for a very long time and trusted. We were discussing a flaw which I had recognised required improving.

I would never make a statement like this to someone that I did not respect and trust.

I'm more than a little concerned by the fact she appeared drunk to you and was a doctor on call?
 
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I have no idea why someone would do that if not for being drunk. I'm trying to get a mental picture of someone doing that, and I could picture a drunk person saying something random like that to a complete stranger.

Alcohol brings out some weird stuff in people.
 
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That whole thing sounded pretty weird to me. I have a friend that is a vet and I don't ever recall her being "on call" at night, but maybe those women worked at some emergency vet hospital.

After reading it twice, I wonder if it feels off to me because something is missing. It seems like one of those dreams that you recount later, but the parts just don't seem to go together.....
 
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First, I agree that drunk people do and say stupid stuff.

Second, alcohol also reduces your inhibitions and so she may have been feeling guilty about something (maybe she said something mean to a friend) and it was weighing on her mind. Since she was drunk, she decided to divulge to you because she thought it would make her feel better.

I agree that being drunk as a vet on call is unethical, but that's a whole different issue.
 
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Very surreal. If it's accurate, it sounds like she was very drunk. She may or not be a vet, who was or was not on call, who's curious about your pets, and who is or isn't nice and is or isn't belligerent to you.

Why do you feel it was a rejection effort? She quite possibly had no idea where she was or what she was saying. Definitely didn't know who you are. Rather than a rejection, I think you got a ... Visitation! by ... Something!
 
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Salsera713 wrote :
First, I agree that drunk people do and say stupid stuff.

Second, alcohol also reduces your inhibitions and so she may have been feeling guilty about something (maybe she said something mean to a friend) and it was weighing on her mind. Since she was drunk, she decided to divulge to you because she thought it would make her feel better.

I agree that being drunk as a vet on call is unethical, but that's a whole different issue.
yep. I was going to say this.

my guess is she was having a Shite day and got loaded. she then blurted out nonsense stuff because of the way she felt at the time.

chances are, it had nothing to do with you personally.
 
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I wonder if she had just "done something" in a relationship and was feeling a bit guilty. I've seen (heard) people, not just women, do this when they are feeling they have done something wrong. It's like they feel the need to warn any potential of the opposite sex to stay away.

It wasn't about you, it was about her.
 
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