jayjay is offline jayjay Post #11  April 3,2010, 1:35pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Glad to have you here! I hope you will continue posting and sharing your experiences, thoughts and suggestions on a variety of topics.
 
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TXButtercup is offline TXButtercup Post #12  April 3,2010, 1:53pm
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Welcome to you!

There are some very caring posters here that will offer both encouragement and advice. There are many people that will offer opinions

I haven't ever been in the same situation as you, so will have to defer to others with closer experience. Certainly I have had my heart broken before and remember that terrible ache that stays raw and has you out of sorts. It feels as though it won't ever go away, but it does.

I know from experience that people that invite you to spend time with them do so because they care about you. They don't see you as the third wheel. They want you to be able to smile and have some time doing something besides focusing on the pain and loneliness. Let them be a friend and give this gift to you

And when you are bored and just want to talk to others, come here and be entertained.
 
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Mr_B is offline Mr_B Post #13  April 3,2010, 5:33pm
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TXButtercup wrote :

And when you are bored and just want to talk to others, come here and be entertained.
Then I think I will be here often!

You know, there has been some good to come of all of this.

For one, I am eating better. Smaller portions and just better choices on what I decide to consume. I've also stopped drinking soda, which was my one and only vise. I don't smoke, and only drink socially on occasion, so cutting out the soda has helped just by itself.

I've also started exercising too - something I haven't done since high school. Also, I'm going to start jogging this week as I've heard that it does wonders for burning calories.

I figure if and when I DO get "back in the game", I should probably look my best, right?
 
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Work_in_Progress is offline Work_in_Progress Post #14  April 4,2010, 8:28am
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Hi, Mr B, and welcome!

Yes, I have been there as many of us have, and I think the amount of time it takes to be ready to move on is as individual as each person and his/her circumstances.

In my own case, I divorced after 23 years of marriage, and I've actually still not had my first date, but I didn't even begin to consider it till about 3 years after the divorce. Many people won't need nearly that long, but there was a series of traumas in my life in the years leading up to the divorce and ending with my ex making some devastating choices, so that it all just caught up with me at once and shook me to my core. I really just kind of needed to start back at square one (which was counseling) and rebuild my life.

In any case, it really does get much, much easier as time goes on, and now that I've been alone so long, I've moved from terrified at the thought, to just nervous, to frustrated that I can seem to find anyone...for even a date... to it'll happen when it's meant to, and in the meantime, I have more time to work on me/my life and enjoy my own company and that of family/friends.

Best of luck to you!
 
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BlueHeron is offline BlueHeron Post #15  April 4,2010, 4:49pm
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Hello Mr B,
I'm glad you came to these boards for comfort, advice and our companionship. What you're going through hurts, but I think you will find that the pain will lessen with time. Be patient with yourself, esp. your heart, treat your body well and never give up hope. Life IS good. I'm wishing you well!!
 
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brneyedangel is offline brneyedangel Post #16  April 5,2010, 1:32pm
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would very much appreciate it if the rain would stop, now! Thanks!

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Welcome to the boards, Mr. B!

I'm not even going to pretend to know what you are going through, or offer advice about how it's going to be, because I've not been in your shoes, and I think that each experience is different for everyone. However, I think you're going to find that there are many people here who can be helpful and offer insight to you.

I wish you all the best, and I hope to see you on the boards!
 
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