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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #1  March 27,2010, 5:27am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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So an old thread of mine has come came back from the dead and it made me think about this. A few of us women did a selfless experiment in the name of research about physical attraction and posted our photos to be reviewed on Plenty of Fish (yes it is scary, still no need to thank us).

We found that younger men were inclined to be very generous or enthusiastic in their assessments of our hotness. Even other women wanted to say nice things when we dressed nicely.

The upsetting finding was that men our own age (and our ages covered the spectrum) were the ones to find us the least attractive. Not a huge sample study and not statistically valid but still, an upsetting and universal finding.

So men, do you find women your own age (+ or - 3 years) attractive?
 
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I'm attracted to attractive women! Duh!
 
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The older they are, the more they wear frumpy clothes and cover up everything too much: legs, arms, neck, collarbones, EVERYTHING.

There is no end to the numbers of excuses used for this.

Shame, really....because in every other area, older women are (to me) to be exalted and adored...
 
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6dle899 wrote :
The older they are, the more they wear frumpy clothes and cover up everything too much: legs, arms, neck, collarbones, EVERYTHING.

There is no end to the numbers of excuses used for this.

Shame, really....because in every other area, older women are (to me) to be exalted and adored...
This made me smile. I'm so glad to hear you really do appreciate older women!

I've come up against ageism in dating a few times. The funniest example? I was at a dance club with friends. There was a smart, attractive, older man there (in his 50's, about 12 years my senior). We shared a mutual attraction and sat down to chat. Things were going very well until... he stated his predilection for women in their early 30's, and stated that he just wasn't attracted to women older than that and that relationships with older women had proved impossible for him. Okay... conversation continued for a while, and then he asked me if I'd like to go out on a date with him. I told him he'd basically already told me I was too old for him. Poor guy looked like he was going to have a heart attack. He then backtracked and asked my age. When I told him, you could have knocked him over with a feather. He tried to repair the damage assuring me I looked much younger and had thought I was in my early 30's... well, hopefully he learned that "older" women weren't so bad after all. Oh... and ask someone's age before you assume anything. lol!
 
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I can't speak for anyone else, but I am.

Age appropriacy is on the checklist, for me. I have known men who were dating women in their late teens or early twenties, when in their late teens and early twenties. Unfortunately they are still pursuing women in their late teens and early twenties when they are in their late thirties and early forties.

That way lies a long line of short relationships and pointless serial monogamy.
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6dle899 wrote :
The older they are, the more they wear frumpy clothes and cover up everything too much: legs, arms, neck, collarbones, EVERYTHING.

Shame, really....because in every other area, older women are (to me) to be exalted and adored...
Well, now.....it looks to me like somebody should pay a visit to a thread I did last night.....Crazy Ladies and Sexist Pigs.

I know, I know, it's a shameless plug.

Obviously, Trixie, I can't answer your question because I'm not a man.....but I would like to get my place marker in here, because this thread could prove interesting.

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BikerBeagle is offline BikerBeagle Post #7  March 27,2010, 7:02am
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trixie1868 wrote :
So men, do you find women your own age (+ or - 3 years) attractive?
Do I? ...yes ...like DLion, I find attractive women attractive regardless of a numerical age.

In a realistic world beyond the borders of these forums, I believe, though, that most men - including myself - are more attracted to women (who look) 2 - 8 years younger than women our own age.

This, honestly, should come as no surprise to anyone ...entire billion dollar industries - cosmetics and medical, primarily - are flourishing on one basic principle, to make women look younger than they actually are.

*boggle*
 
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I've always been attracted to women my own age. Also, to women a bit older than me- but I think this may be a maturity thing that is closing the gap over time. *grin* There are some very interesting women in my age range (but not my geographic range, drat the luck) on the advice boards, in fact...

However, the reverse is not often true. I seem to be viewed as one of the "old guys" by women my own age. Some of the folks I work with seem to think I'm into my forties (at least!), based on the way I talk and act. I've surprised a few on here as well. Though I appreciate the compliment, I still wish I could find me one whom I could appreciate life with who is in my age range.

So yes, I am. One of these days, I plan to have one (and be *had* by one *grin*).
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I do find women my own age physically attractive, but based on the age demographic of women who have taken a pointed interest in me over the years, the feeling is not mutual.

I don't know if this is because I am immature for my age, or they're mature beyond theirs, but that's the way it is. I should add that this is not based on any recent dating experience, but rather on who has approached me in the past. My wife is actually only a couple of years younger than me, but she does have a younger kind of personality.
 
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On a purely physical "eye candy" level I am attracted to pretty women regardless of their age. My age, younger, older, doesn't matter.

Although, once I get to know them a little bit and experience their personality, I find I'm usually attracted to women roughly my age (I'm 38) and older more than younger women. Much more actually. Doesn't mean I won't give a younger woman a chance (last woman I dated was 30), but significantly younger women tend to be flakier and aloof and more selfish (as younger men tend to be too).
 
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