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lacedwithhope is offline lacedwithhope Post #21  March 27,2010, 8:55am
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trixie1868 wrote :
A few of us women did a selfless experiment in the name of research about physical attraction and posted our photos to be reviewed on Plenty of Fish (yes it is scary, still no need to thank us).
Trixie, I wonder if it's the idea of women's age rather than their appearance/dress, as many of the men here claim. I'd love to see the results of an another 'selfless experiment' perhaps on Match rather instead of SwimmingwiththeFishes (PoF) where attractive women (who hadn't 'given up') in their 40's and 50's posted a current pic but listed their age say 5 years younger.

I honestly think it's the idea of dating someone younger than appeals to many (but of course not all) men. I say this because men my age and slightly younger that I meet in real life who think I'm younger (behavior, dress, appearance?) are more likely to express interest in me than men my age online.

So what am I doing here, you say? Excellent question.
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #22  March 27,2010, 8:57am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I'd love to see the results of an another 'selfless experiment' perhaps on Match rather instead of SwimmingwiththeFishes (PoF) where attractive women (who hadn't 'given up') in their 40's and 50's posted a current pic but listed their age say 5 years younger.
Better make it 10-15 years younger.....as all the women there are already shaving 5 years or so off their ages.
 
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lacedwithhope wrote :
Trixie, I wonder if it's the idea of women's age rather than their appearance/dress, as many of the men here claim. I'd love to see the results of an another 'selfless experiment' perhaps on Match rather instead of SwimmingwiththeFishes (PoF) where attractive women (who hadn't 'given up') in their 40's and 50's posted a current pic but listed their age say 5 years younger.
I'd say that approach would work as good with women as it does with men. I've gotten so many men who have lied about their age from as little as 3 years to as much as 10 years , and it all boils down to the same thing... one criteria people use is age... once they find out you are not the age you said you were... they look at you differently and in a lot of cases, will no longer be interested.

I went out with a guy who said a woman he went out with lied about her age. It was obvious to him that she lied, but he didn't know how much she lied by. When the truth finally came out, she had taken 5 years off of her age. They didn't go out any longer. As a woman, I wouldn't even be interested in a man who wasn't interested in me because of my age. It's just the facts... as DL said, historically, men have gone after younger women, women have gone after older men. Don't know why... not good... not bad... just tis.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #24  March 27,2010, 9:04am

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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In real life I mostly get chatted up by men a decade younger or a decade older. And I like younger men and I like older men so I may be bringing some of this on myself.

Online I'm deliberately trying to match myself with someone age appropriate.

Good for me! Who cares I hear you cry. So this next bit will be a bit contentious and possibly what's going on with men too.

I'm less attracted to men my own age because when I look at them I'm reminded of how much I've aged too. I've always liked older men and now "older" men turn out to be the same age as me and I don't like this reminder of my own mortality!

Younger men make me feel like a desirable cougar and older men make me feel young. Men my own age, especially the ones to whom the years have not been kind, bring me down.

There! I've said it.

 
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That's a very nice happy face avatar you have ...
...you're just saying that so I'll hold it against you....
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
Online I'm deliberately trying to match myself with someone age appropriate.
Me too: but to me, age appropriate = my age less 5 years, for a variety of reasons.

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I'm less attracted to men my own age because when I look at them I'm reminded of how much I've aged too...I don't like this reminder of my own mortality! Men my own age, especially the ones to whom the years have not been kind, bring me down.

There! I've said it.
Yes. It had to be said. I think this is precisely where many people (men and women) are coming from.
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jayjay wrote :
Better make it 10-15 years younger.....as all the women there are already shaving 5 years or so off their ages.
Honestly, I've never shaved anything off my age. Let me get out my marching band for the following: I'm 42 (will be 43 in about a month) and proud of it .
I think I have found more confidence as I've gotten older. I know, at least, that I'm in a much better place than I was 10-15 years ago. Perhaps that affords me a more youthful aura (the confidence).

Personally, aside from a very few exceptions like the one I gave an example of, I don't usually have too much of a problem attracting guys my own age, and actually... I guess the last few relationships I've had have been with guys younger than myself (by 2-4 years). I know this might be the exception rather than the rule, so I don't take it for granted.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #28  March 27,2010, 9:29am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Honestly, I've never shaved anything off my age.
Hey....maybe all those women on PoF who have shaved years off their are are all just doing a 'selfless experiment'. We should give them the benefit of the doubt.
 
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jayjay wrote :
Hey....maybe all those women on PoF who have shaved years off their are are all just doing a 'selfless experiment'. We should give them the benefit of the doubt.
There ya go!!!
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #30  March 27,2010, 9:40am

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jayjay wrote :
Hey....maybe all those women on PoF who have shaved years off their are are all just doing a 'selfless experiment'. We should give them the benefit of the doubt.
Are you explaining me again?
 
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