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Over the last couple weeks my doggy's gotten a cancer diagnosis and as tests come back it's not good. She had a surgery (ear amputation), is on pain meds and cough suppressant; it works but as it gets close to the next dose she gets agitated (drug addiction? just drug wearing off?)

I've been through my mom's death and a lot of pet deaths over the years; done a lot of downward-spiral nursing care, and am totally capable of it, and of the final euthanasia decisions (well not mom of course). But it's been a few years and I sort of forgot what it's like.

Then, one of my 2 best friends has retreated into lala-land, completely blowing me off, awol. I'm not sure why. I don't really care. I just know she's gone when I need her.

I'm tired. Just venting.
 
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I am so sorry to hear this. This is a lot to have going on at the same time.

And our pets do really make an impact in our life. I recently lost one of my dogs and couldn't believe how heart-broken I was. I knew it would happen eventually, but never expected it to hurt as much as it did.

I don't envy where you are at this moment, but I know with certainty it will get better. I hope your friend comes out of la-la land and offers that in person support you need. It really does make a difference.

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Sorry to hear about your dog.

Losing pets is never easy. I had a couple of pets (dog and cat) that lived for a long time. When they died it was like I lost an important connection to my entire life up to that point. It's been quite awhile now, but I still get sad thinking about them sometimes.

Isn't there an old adage to the effect that "Good friends come and go, but enemies accumulate." It may simply be that time in this particular friendship. If it isn't, they'll be back, and if not, new friends will come to take their place.
 
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I'm sorry to hear about your dog. They are such a big, loving part of our life. I've recently lost 2 dogs and 2 cats, and quite frankly I have most of it still in what I call my DENIAL FILE
The best we can do is to ease their pain, keep them comfortable, remember that this is nature's way, and thank them for the loving company through all these years. I'll be thinking of you.
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I'm sorry about your little Rosebud.

I wish I could help you somehow. All I know for certain is that you will find the Will to do what you have to do.....to get you both through this.

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Hugs. I know what it's like...... at least you can come here for a chat.....

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Thank you all for your kindness. Even though I've never met any of you in person it really does help, made me get tears in my eyes. Thanks!

And I'm sorry for you, Buttercup, StuckOnYou, BlueHeron, and LilyCat, and others who've lost animals, it is hard. And thanks j8a, my friend.

So far Rosebud is still acting like Happy Puppy, doing her usual stuff, just sleeping more and that cone on her head is driving her nuts (e-collar). I'm trying to just stay in the moment with her joyfulness.

My friend ... I do not know what the problem is; could be a lot of things. At some point we are either going to have to hash it out, or become more superficial friends, which is not what I want ... I will probably try this week to get her attention and see what happens.
 
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Sassy...friends do this sometimes. I don't know why. Something in their life goes off-kilter, or maybe it was off-kilter to begin with and something triggered it. I have one in this phase right now.

It's good to have backups.

Doglets...they do entwine themselves in our hearts, don't they? I've been fortunate to have two magnificant companions and honored to have been with them at the end, holding them in my arms to see them on their way even as my heart broke for my own selfish loss. I've lost a few precious people along the way as well.

I don't have any wise words to tell you to make it any better. Just, some days are better than others, I suppose.

I'm happy you're back and posting. I missed you while you were away.
 
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Sassafras54 wrote :
Thank you all for your kindness. Even though I've never met any of you in person it really does help, made me get tears in my eyes. Thanks!

And I'm sorry for you, Buttercup, StuckOnYou, BlueHeron, and LilyCat, and others who've lost animals, it is hard. And thanks j8a, my friend.

So far Rosebud is still acting like Happy Puppy, doing her usual stuff, just sleeping more and that cone on her head is driving her nuts (e-collar). I'm trying to just stay in the moment with her joyfulness.

My friend ... I do not know what the problem is; could be a lot of things. At some point we are either going to have to hash it out, or become more superficial friends, which is not what I want ... I will probably try this week to get her attention and see what happens.
Sassafras

Sorry for all the drama in your life right now. Having lost a precious animal friend a little over a year ago I know this is not an easy thing to deal with. Hope you can enjoy the moment with Rosebud. I remember when Lady had to wear a cone she would get so frustrated when she would run into doors etc. It was almost comical. She has been gone for a little more than a year so I know that this must be a hard time - staying in the moment sounds like the wisest choice.

As for your friend, I am sorry to hear that on top of everything else you have been through. May you find peace through the midst of all you are dealing with now.

Never feel bad about venting. It keeps us sane sometimes!
 
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justme27 is offline justme27 Post #10  March 27,2010, 10:54am
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Sassafras you feel exhausted, I've been trying for two days to get my account deactivated and nothing. I just got an emotional butt-wipping in real life and darn I'm tired. I've written to Ms. Lori, Ms. Kate, insulted Neardc....what the helk?
 
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