lotusflower is offline lotusflower Post #1  March 26,2010, 1:58pm
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I just read this article in the e-harmony advice column sent to my email, with precepts from this book: "Inside the Male Brain". It is written by a medical professional and speaks about the differences in men and women biologically and in brain chemistry . It speaks about men in their 20's and 30's having tetesterone levels ten times that of us females and their pre-occupation with sex much more than the average female, which is why they almost need to have variety. It's kinda telling us not to take it personally. We may be hot and sexy, and loveable, but according to this small article, they at a certain stage biologically are almost predestined to not be loyal.
How they would love to have 10, 20 females on average in a lifetime, compared to our desire to be with one or two , to be cared for. It gives the biological reasons for this and then says in the article somewhere that they are not bad people though because of this.

I would categorize a man whose testerone levels like that as someone a seriously devoted female would be doomed to being injured by if ever bumping into this one.

This doesn't mean he is rotten in other areas of his personality, but only when it comes to intimacy and devotion while in this stage in my view.

Perhaps when or if he gets past this biological stage he might make a better intimate partner for some serious devoted type of female, though I'm sure he's a good friend to his buddies, just not some women on an initmate or serious level. That's all I wished to say after reading this article. The same would be for a female if she needed to have alot of men. No man would take a risk at putting his heart into her either.

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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  March 26,2010, 2:05pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Gee, I wonder why no one else has posted on this article.

While the average man would enjoy having quite a few sexual partners in his lifetime. And I hate to break it to you, but even men wanting 10-20 sexual partners over a lifetime sounds low to me. However, I don't think this precludes men wanting and having a monogamous relationship at some point in their lives.

I think sex drive is like everything else in that compromise is needed in a relationship. I may not have sex as much as I might like because I need to take my partner's preferences and feelings into consideration....just as she will as well.
 
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jayjay wrote :
I hate to break it to you, but even men wanting 10-20 sexual partners over a lifetime sounds low to me.
Indeed... I think that the article low balled this... excuse the pun. These days when both men and women are finding themselves involved in serial monogamy I think that the number will be higher for both sexes by the time they are in their 60's.

Women above the age of forty have the sex dives of male sixteen year olds so in the end they get us back...
 
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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #4  March 26,2010, 2:19pm
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I posted the article a few days ago on this board and it was moved to About you:

http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...upposedly.html (Male brain..supposedly)
 
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