What does chemistry mean to you?


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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #21  March 25,2010, 11:10pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Yes I understand that we look for other things in the matches too. I said that in my post. But chemistry such as it is is there or it's not there.

You can't manufacture it or control it or make it be there w the really cool girl you like.
That's pretty consistent with my own experience, though some people say that chemistry can grow for them. My approach has generally been that within the set of women I feel a basic level of chemistry with I look for a subset with additional characteristics that I also value and/or find attractive in other ways.
 
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Some people seem to be confusing attraction and chemistry here.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #23  March 26,2010, 1:55pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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mrflyer wrote :
Some people seem to be confusing attraction and chemistry here.
Some people define these as entirely different concepts. Others define them as overlapping and others still as exactly the same thing.
 
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I consider Chemistry to me an emotional bond – or “click” that can potentially drive you insane with how in love you are with someone. One gal I remember in particular was a very sweet gal and she could read my emotions like an open book, even though I had only spoken to her online, with a computer screen between me and her. No voice, no body language ext. (This was a big thing for me; I was a bit of an emotionally unstable teenager when we knew each other) I could talk to her about anything openly and candidly, and the same would go with her talking to me. I’d probably call her my first true love as being a horny teenager, looks were about 80% of how I judged females, yet I was driven mad by a completely plutonic relationship – and to this day I have no idea as to what she looked like.

That’s what chemistry is to me at least – emotional compatibility. I have skirted this realm with a few other females in my life, but alas none came close to what I had online years ago. But best to have loved and lost, than have never loved at all.
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Chemistry is not just clicking... I personally met tons of men who were clicking with me istantly but were just not boyfriend material (commit phobics, money problems, etc...) so they stay in the friend zone. I think a woman feels what she wants for a long term relationship... The matter here is to get someone who wants you the same way, I do not think that overanalysing feelings helps ...
 
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