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johnny99 is offline johnny99 Post #1  March 22,2010, 10:00pm
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Hi,

I was wandering if any of you ladies and gentlemen can point out differences between Races.

What might a African-American Woman expect on the first dates?
What a Hispanic woman expects?
What a White woman expects?
What an Oriental woman expects... and so on

Obviously it goes to men as well, I hope this helps as some kind of guide.

I know we're all different, but races tend to have similar backgrounds, so for example, maybe an (might not be the case) hispanic woman won't expect to be kissed in the mouth the first date whilst the African-american does, etc.

I hope this thread is taken in a good open manner and not as a way to be racist, 'cause clearly it's not my intention.
 
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lil_lamb is offline lil_lamb Post #2  March 22,2010, 10:22pm
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i'm oriental (mostly). this means not korean, vietnamese, filipino, pacific islander, thai, etc. it means just chinese and japanese to me.

if i go on a date with a chinese american guy (i'm chinese, my grandma would kill me if i went out with a japanese guy) - i'd expect to split the bill down the middle and drive him back to his car. but i'm sure he'd pick up the extra cent should the bill not divide evenly.

if i go on a date with a chinese guy from china (not shanghai or hong kong), i'd expect to listen to him talk about the importance of hard work, how hard he's worked, and what a shame it is i don't know "my mother tongue."

i don't expect to be kissed by either on the first date. i expect both to be put off that i don't eat asian food very often.

if i go out with someone non-asian, i expect to listen to hear the guy talk about what a shame it is i don't know "my mother tongue" and to be put off that i don't eat asian food very often. but they'll pick up the tab and walk me to my car, and maybe try for a kiss on the first date.

i don't go on dates with shanghai or hong kong guys because i can't find any.
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johnny99 is offline johnny99 Post #3  March 22,2010, 10:36pm
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Hi lil_lamb =)

Will you expect a kiss on the mouth at the end of the first date? or would you rather wait for a later date?

I dated a mexican girl once and although the date went well, when I was leaving, she gave me her hand, a kiss in the cheek and said "nice to meet you, hope we can meet again soon", also she was expecting me to be courteous (open doors, do the chair thing, etc)
 
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lil_lamb is offline lil_lamb Post #4  March 22,2010, 10:54pm
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hi johnny i'd bet there's more to it than your girl being mexican, tho she may have attributed her expectations to it.

to answer your question, i'd be prepared for a kiss on the first date, in which case it would be the last date. i prefer this not to happen until the third or fourth date. i'm german catholic with a heavy overlay of the british, in spite of being mostly chinese. this means, i deal best with reserved and discrete behaviour.

oh, but please, give me french and italian food over everything else.

oh ok. one more thing. i'm also american. i'd expect a hug at the end of the first date, if it was a pleasant one. a kiss on the cheek would also be sweet.
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Wow. I haven't seen a thread that instantly made me want to cuss in a while. I'm going to refrain and leave the "room" b/c the more I think about it the more this thread p!sses me off.
 
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brixjnz wrote :
Wow. I haven't seen a thread that instantly made me want to cuss in a while. I'm going to refrain and leave the "room" b/c the more I think about it the more this thread p!sses me off.
LMAO!!
Please tell us why!
 
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That really is an insanely stupid question. Obviously that has nothing to do with skin color but with personal preferences! I mean obviously if someone came from a very traditional ethnic background where there were arranged marriages and dowries that would be a good question because I'm sure those girls don't kiss on the first date.
 
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proudgeek wrote :
LMAO!!
Please tell us why!
Because women (and people) are all different for a multitude of reasons other than race. Unless a person is within the first couple of generations of emigrating to the United States, they are not likely to have retained that much of their native culture. There is no common "African American" culture. There are different "cultures" among different classes of any race. You cannot expect one black person (or person of any creed or color) to behave the same as the next, simply by virtue of race. To ask for a breakdown of how women of each race behave and what they expect in dating is to ask for stereotypes (sometimes nasty ones) to be drawn. That bugs me. How about judging people on a case by case basis that has nothing to do with race, but by who they are as an individual?
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #9  March 25,2010, 11:19am

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Oriental is for rugs!

But seriously, let's pick a race...

I guarantee you, dating a white woman from the US will be different than one from Europe or any other countries...same with Asians, blacks, etc....there might be some underlying similarities, but the culture of the country where they reside/family upbringing will determine more their approach in dating/life than race.

This is over-simplifying of course.
 
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Superrock is offline Superrock Post #10  March 28,2010, 8:57am
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I realize it was an innocent mistake but in the United States it is much safer to refer to people from Asia as asians rather than oriental. Most asians consider oriental offensive and it's legally a racial slur.

I think it would been safer to ask what the cultural differences are between different races rather than over-generalizing how they think or react in the context of a a relationship. Obviously cultural differences do exist but I do not believe it's possible to extrapolate goals and expectations from those differences. Asians, for example, are usually more conservative than other ethnicities but where a woman is in her life will more likely determine what she's seeking in a relationship.
 
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