Friendship Question: Ethnocentric Friends

I enjoy the presence of more worldly people.

j8a, I'm confused? How can worldly people be misconstrued? Well, I never worked in SF and I do believe we worked in different industries--I'm not certain what industry you worked in. Although I've never been to SF I have heard it is very, very liberal. And depending what industry you are in, people can be more accepting.

Are you angry with me j8a? I'm just sharing my experience. I don't take offense, but it may be offensive to others to tell them, "they don't understand their own experience."

Well, you're entitled to your opinion.

If your worldview is working for you as well you claim, why are you here asking for advice on how to deal with people at parties?

P.S. Responding to someone else's worldview, even if you think it's "inexperienced", with "ugh" is just plain rude. In fact, I'm going to exercise *my* preference to be responded to with respect, and just end this here. *wanders out*

Don't trouble yourself; I took that class too, for my psychology degree.

I'm off to bed now.

From my experience dealing with usually the alpha male types, not necessarily though and I may not be describing the types correctly, there is usually at least little bit of, "do you belong."


I won't go into corporate politics because you have to be there to understand it. I don't believe you are there. No offense by that but if you are against hazing and fraternities than I highly doubt the competitive corporate world is your style.

Wow this thread went off in a weird direction, I wonder why?

Ethnocentricity ... it's alive and well and living in Los Angeles, one of the most diverse places in the world.

Some people only like people who come from the same culture and won't relate to others much, beyond commerce etc. Other people like a wider variety of people.

There can be good people and bad people of both types. Happy and unhappy of both types.

It's good to know what type you are.

First paragraph: that's generally only true if the people involved are very immature. For example, I'm not very athletic, but I can still go to the gym full of guys who are without getting grief from them. That would only happen if I started some nonsense with them. Now maybe if we were all 12 years old they'd be laughing about how much more weight they can lift than I can...

Oh, I happen to live in an area where some people's first language is not English, and that hasn't been a problem.

Certainly someone should be able to attend a party without being mistreated. Parties are supposed to be about having fun.

I've worked in the corporate world; you were probably in single digits when I started- and generally, hazing-type behavior is not tolerated. Office politics is so far from hazing that it's laughable to compare them.

I've also worked with a lot of people from other countries- no real problems there other than sometimes understanding their accents, but no knife fights or anything due to being from different cultures.

I have nothing against fraternities.

I don't think you get what hazing really is.