j0hn8andy is offline j0hn8andy Post #11  March 21,2010, 11:02am
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Yes. My 24th anniversary is coming up in a few weeks (26 years together) and I'm certain we will be together for the rest of our lives.

For me though, when single, it's always been a matter of when, not if, and with one of the right ones, not just the right one. I wonder if this outlook has made a difference in my ability to engage in relationships?

I love my wife, have committed myself to her, and can see very, very few reasons that would cause me to leave her. That being said, however, I'm confident that if she walked out on me tomorrow, I'd be with someone within 12-18 months about whom I would feel the same way. Not because I desire to be in a relationship for a relationship's sake, but because, and for whatever reason, I've been pretty good/lucky/?? at finding people that I mesh with throughout my life.
You are far more fortunate than I.

I was only married 18 years the first time.

I had to wait a couple years to find "just the right one" and marry him. I only "got" 15 years with him, before he died. Now it's just shy of him being gone 18 months, and I am in no way, shape, or form.....ready to love again.

So, like I say.....you are far more fortunate than I.

My second husband's first marriage.....ended after 25 years. You just never can tell about these things. I guess it's a good thing to be prepared to move on so quickly; I certainly wasn't.

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Believe me j0hn8andy, I know how fortunate I am and count my blessings every single day! And it's not so much that I'm prepared to move on as that I recognize from previous experience what is likely to happen, if that makes any sense.

I do think the death of a spouse/partner is much different than having someone leave though. I have a friend whose wife died very young. He remarried after a couple of years but it didn't stick and the loss of his previous wife played no small role in the breakup. He then more or less buried himself in raising their kids, work, faith, and has now essentially given up on LTRs altogether. I think he's a bit too fatalistic about it, but then I did not go through what he did and am in no position to judge.
 
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I hope you get those toothaches checked out lol. J/K

I could see myself spending the rest of my life with the right guy for me. It is what I want and will happen when the right one comes at the right time.
It's a long story. Let's just say I'm used to it and my team of dentists / endodontists / oral surgeons and the like are well aware.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
It's a long story. Let's just say I'm used to it and my team of dentists / endodontists / oral surgeons and the like are well aware.
I'm no dentist, but *I* know why you've got toothaches...

You're too sweet! *grin* All that natural sugar and spice and everything nice has infected your teeth. It was inevitable. You are just not mean enough.
 
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I'm no dentist, but *I* know why you've got toothaches...

You're too sweet! *grin* All that natural sugar and spice and everything nice has infected your teeth. It was inevitable. You are just not mean enough.
LOL. I like that theory!

Unfortunately, I could provide you with references who might dispute that point of view.
 
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My grandparents were married 60 plus years and when I think of what real love looks like, I think of them. That is what I want. Because of my age I will not have the luxury of the same amount of time. I only hope I am given the opportunity to love and be loved by someone as deeply as they loved each other. I recognize that it will not be perfection at times but it is still worth the effort with the right partner (one that is committed as myself).
 
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Well, Stuck on You.....may I suggest an avatar?

Some people don't bother to stop and read posts done by "shadowy silhouettes".....myself included, for the most part. I do read yours, though, and find them interesting.

It would be easier if you stood out from the crowd.....like you deserve to.

I might even consider it a personal Favor if you chose one. I hope you give some thought to it.

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OK, Stuck on You!

I think I really am going to have to consider your avatar a personal Favor. You just made my day.....and believe me, my day needed making.

It's good to see you shine.

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j0hn8andy wrote :
Well, Stuck on You.....may I suggest an avatar?

Some people don't bother to stop and read posts done by "shadowy silhouettes".....myself included, for the most part. I do read yours, though, and find them interesting.

It would be easier if you stood out from the crowd.....like you deserve to.

I might even consider it a personal Favor if you chose one. I hope you give some thought to it.

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OK, Stuck on You!

I think I really am going to have to consider your avatar a personal Favor. You just made my day.....and believe me, my day needed making.

It's good to see you shine.

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No problem j8a, your advice about having no avatar was good, although "shadowy silhouettes" kind of makes me seem mysterious, even intriguing, and I think it was more a case of just plain lazy.

BTW, in case it isn't obvious, the picture in the avatar is not me.

And the pleasure is all mine to have helped make your day in any way.
 
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My great grandparents were married for 72 years. I've thought a lot about what they did that I should emulate (if I ever get married!). They always shared the same double bed. They each had their own space, Grandma had the main floor, Grandpa had the basement so he could smoke all the cigars and watch all the baseball he wanted. They always presented a united front. If they argued, they kept it to themselves.
 
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