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danny273 is offline danny273 Post #1  March 17,2010, 4:31pm
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I am a 24 year-old single male with a receding hairline and I am writing to seek female opinions on what I should do about it given that I have had brain surgery as a child and therefore have a scar all the way down the back of my head. Should I leave it to recede naturally, shave it off now thus exposing my surgical scar or cover it with a wig when the time comes? Do these large scars put females off?

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I had my hair turning grey in my early twenties, and it did not have any affect on my dating at all (that I could tell.)

All things equal, I favor a personal identity: shave you head if that is what you would do no matter what; leave the hair as-is if that is your preference.

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danny273 wrote :
Hi,

I am a 24 year-old single male with a receding hairline and I am writing to seek female opinions on what I should do about it given that I have had brain surgery as a child and therefore have a scar all the way down the back of my head. Should I leave it to recede naturally, shave it off now thus exposing my surgical scar or cover it with a wig when the time comes? Do these large scars put females off?

Thanks,
Danny
Nope! It is what it is. I wouldn't even worry about that and do what you feel most comfortable doing with the hair thing. I think a shaved head looks better than a receding hairline on most guys, but that's just my opinion!
 
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My only comments are these:

1. The best looking guys in high school (quarterbacks and football players) all had receding hairlines - thinning hair - by the time we got to our 10-year high school reunion. Must have been something with wearing helmets.

2. Shaving your head means you have to maintain it. For girls, it's like shaving other areas. It can be a real maintenance nightmare. Be prepared to keep it clean-shaven and that can cost money if you can't get to all the head and see everything.

3. Let it all hang out. It is what it is. Be yourself.

If this is the worst of your problems, then you've got it made, my man!
 
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Anyone who rejects you for a scar is well out of your life.

Sometimes unusual appearance features take a while to fade into the background, but exceptionally attractive features can also fade away if the person/personality is &%#*}{`=+.

Some people are very direct, and will ask what/why/how, in which case just give a brief answer. Others will wait for you to tell your story. You don't need to try to cover it up; everything will be revealed eventually. Wigs do not look natural 97% of the time, only on film with various Photo Shop, etc. assistance will trick us into thinking artificial hair is natural. [By the way, after more than 40 years, it looks like fake hair is about to become fashionable again...for women. So, maybe men also will be wearing obviously (or maybe not so) artificial stuff this time around.]

Surgical scars are becoming much smaller, and also more common. There are also ways to reduce, or even almost remove, scars.

If I truly am attracted to someone, a scar wouldn't matter.

If you feel self conscious, you will have problems.

If you feel confident, you will not.

As I said, if someone rejects you for your scar, then you are well rid of her.

Hope this helps!
 
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danny273 is offline danny273 Post #6  March 17,2010, 11:51pm
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Thank you all very much for your advice and support. It's always uplifting to hear from people that look at inner beauty more so than outer beauty as I have had all sorts of rude comments made behind my back following my second surgery, but just ignored them back then as I knew it was only temporary. Just in case you're curious, I uploaded a profile pic of myself. Feel free to comment on what sort of style you think would suit me! I'm no fashion or style expert...haha. http://www.flickr.com/photos/48470490@N02/4442317632/
 
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danny273 wrote :
Thank you all very much for your advice and support. It's always uplifting to hear from people that look at inner beauty more so than outer beauty as I have had all sorts of rude comments made behind my back following my second surgery, but just ignored them back then as I knew it was only temporary. Just in case you're curious, I uploaded a profile pic of myself. Feel free to comment on what sort of style you think would suit me! I'm no fashion or style expert...haha. http://www.flickr.com/photos/48470490@N02/4442317632/
No wigs, no comb-overs..., ever!

When my hairline receded I eventually just got a buzz cut (00 sometimes 0 on a standard clipper). Easier to maintain than shaving your head and looks pretty good to boot. I imagine it would cover your scars pretty well too if that is still a concern.

Looking at your picture though it doesn't seem like you're at a point where this is really necessary. I doubt it is stopping you from meeting someone you like and likes you back. It will be off-putting to some women, sure, but there will be others who are indifferent to it, and still others will like it.
 
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I agree with StuckOnYou. It does not look to me like you need to consider shaving yet.

I think a buzz cut or shave will make you look younger which is probably not what you want at your age. However, I generally feel a buzz cut is a good way to go when the there is more hair loss.
 
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You're too kind!

Unfortunately, a couple of bald patches have appeared on the top of my head which I can still cover with my other hair, but not sure this is the right approach. Flickr: danny422's Photostream
 
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