What kind of "reference" would your Ex be for you?


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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  March 11,2010, 1:12pm
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Yesterday my friends and I were talking about (gasp) dating and relationships, and one of them brought up an old TV show on dating where the contestants Ex's would give feedback on them to their potential dates (I think it was called "Ex-treme Dating" or something along those lines).

That made me think to ask the Advicers,

What would YOUR most recent, or most significant* ex have to say about you to a prospective new mate?


*"significant" meaning the longest relationship time-wise, or the most deep relationship in terms of feelings.
 
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Not a particularly helpful one. He tends to rely on sarcasm as a communication style.
 
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When my most recent ex found out that I was in a relationship, he responded to the speaker "Well? Would I approve?" He was a good-natured, fair-minded and generous partner ... and I like to think he would say the same of me. But knowing his sense of humor, he would probably only say: "she used to have good taste".
 
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
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What would YOUR most recent, or most significant* ex have to say about you to a prospective new mate?
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
Yesterday my friends and I were talking about (gasp) dating and relationships, and one of them brought up an old TV show on dating where the contestants Ex's would give feedback on them to their potential dates (I think it was called "Ex-treme Dating" or something along those lines).

That made me think to ask the Advicers,

What would YOUR most recent, or most significant* ex have to say about you to a prospective new mate?


*"significant" meaning the longest relationship time-wise, or the most deep relationship in terms of feelings.
C'mon Lori...that's one of the questions matches can send.
You can think of a more original question than that, can't you?
 
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I only have two ex's that I haven't talked to since we went our separate ways. The remainder I hear from every now and again and even *gasp* catch a meal with or go camping or to some event together like old friends, which I guess we are now! It's come up a time or two about dating again, but we will never as I've physically moved 500 miles away and we are friends now. So in short almost all would have nothing but good things to say. One probably still hates me (she was/is a pessimistic person, I'm an eternal optimist, it didn't work well), the other I have no idea.

I think it's a very odd stock question in the G.C.
 
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TheThinker wrote :
C'mon Lori...that's one of the questions matches can send.
You can think of a more original question than that, can't you?
I actually didn't know that - I'm not allowed to use the service, remember! :'(
 
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I think it's a bizarre question. Why would someone expect an ex to give an objective answer? I'm sure some would, but some would say just about anything.

I wonder who writes these questions, because it's as if they have no understanding of human behavior.

What is the relevance, anyway? You can't go back in time and relive your past relationships.
 
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I think I will call him and ask him.
 
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Mokkesofie is offline Mokkesofie Post #10  March 12,2010, 1:22pm
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Hmmmmm, I don't think his wife would like it.
 
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