How much should someone change?

Hummmm, there are somethings we cant really change about our personalities. But just because your an introvert does not mean you should have a lot of anxiety.
Most of our anxieties are caused by things we feel are threats to us. We, most of the time dont even know how we got this way. There are many reasons we hold on to them until we recognize that they really are not real threats to us at all.
So, you should be proud of your personality type but just work on getting rid of, or at least getting those anxieties under control.
It is said that about 90 something percent of our fears dont ever come to pass in the first place.

Hi Cap'n,
You seem to be more a mix of intro and extro-vert, to me. You are sort of happy having a small social circle of close friends who are introverts, but you seem to want to expand to more and different people. Is that accurate?

If so I'd say you're probably closer to the middle of the introvert-extrovert bell curve, and perhaps are kind of anxious, or just inexperienced, at social stuff. Does that seem right?

Here's a way to talk to people you don't know well, that usually makes things go better and is also fun: be interested in them. Ask them about themselves. People like talking about themselves.

But they also like to hear others talk, so add in some talk about yourself. Be truthful with it; you don't have to pretend you're a huge extrovert or anything.

It's amazing what stories people have to tell, once you start asking them!

Most social situation are almost "tiresome" to me. the interview that I mentioned in my last post left me completely exhausted, sweaty, anxious and ready for a shower and bed even though it was about 4:00 in the afternoon. Even though I performed well, the situation beat me up real bad.