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BrandonP is offline BrandonP Post #1  March 8,2010, 3:31pm
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I am a white man who is almost exclusively attracted to black women, especially darker-skinned ones. Unfortunately, I have not been able to find an attractive black woman close to my age who is available. Almost every good-looking black woman in the very white-and-Hispanic city I live in already has a boyfriend. I realize I can try online dating, but most of these websites require you to pay to fully use them, even eHarmony (plus, on eHarmony, almost none of the black women are paying members).

Other people have told me that I should try dating women who I don't find attractive, but honestly, I believe that physical attraction is essential for romance. Without that, you might as well just be friends. Therefore, I am reluctant to broaden my criteria.

Another thing I am concerned about is how people to react to me having a black girlfriend if I do find one. No one in my family minds me dating outside my race as far as I can tell, but I have gotten white supremacists angry at me for stating my preference, so I am afraid I might have to defend my girlfriend from racist thugs.

What should I do?
 
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Once you go black....

EH and other siites do have a way to fin people based on race or religion. You might be able to find them off of certain web site.
 
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Honestly, I am not keen on your path, here.

I think you'd be better served by presenting yourself truthfully, then allowing the women who are drawn to you to make themselves known, then you select from them, based on goals, lifestyle, and such (not suggesting attraction doens't matter, as it does.)

To fixate only on one race, I think it's the mistake.
 
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I am a white man who is almost exclusively attracted to black women, especially darker-skinned ones. Unfortunately, I have not been able to find an attractive black woman close to my age who is available. Almost every good-looking black woman in the very white-and-Hispanic city I live in already has a boyfriend. I realize I can try online dating, but most of these websites require you to pay to fully use them, even eHarmony (plus, on eHarmony, almost none of the black women are paying members).

Other people have told me that I should try dating women who I don't find attractive, but honestly, I believe that physical attraction is essential for romance. Without that, you might as well just be friends. Therefore, I am reluctant to broaden my criteria.

Another thing I am concerned about is how people to react to me having a black girlfriend if I do find one. No one in my family minds me dating outside my race as far as I can tell, but I have gotten white supremacists angry at me for stating my preference, so I am afraid I might have to defend my girlfriend from racist thugs.

What should I do?
White supremacists? Where the heck do you live?? That's just insane. I hate those racist ba*&^*rds! Anyway, why don't you try a free dating site like Plenty of Fish where you can search specifically for the type of girl you are looking for by race, age, region, etc.
 
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I would like to both encourage you to state your preference on eharmony and chastise you for stating that most black women do not pay. I am a black woman who belongs to eharmony and another website. I am a paying member of both sites along with many other black women. They are out there you just have to keep looking.
 
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White supremacists? Where the heck do you live??
This actually happened on an online message board, not in real life.
 
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BrandonP wrote :
so I am afraid I might have to defend my girlfriend from racist thugs.

What should I do?
I know this is a big fantasy for men, to protect their woman from roving gangs of whoever, but you need to stop watching so many movies.
 
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Dude, you're a college student. Forget the dating sites. You shouldn't have any trouble finding what you're looking for right there on campus. I may be gettin' old but the prospects on campus couldn't have changed that much since I went to college.
 
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Stop hanging out with them, online or otherwise.
BrandonP wrote :
I have gotten white supremacists angry at me for stating my preference, so I am afraid I might have to defend my girlfriend from racist thugs.

What should I do?
 
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Hey, people are entitled to their preferences and interracial couples can and do encounter hostility from all sides depending on where/how they live.

OP, I'd suggest that in addition to dating sites you start socializing in mixed circles. Meetup.com has a lot of meetups for people interested in specific types of dating scenarios so you might find yourself best served to fish in a pool of black women who are also specifically looking for a certain type of partner. Plus, with meetup, you often meet up socially or in a large group to do activities so there is less pressure. Otherwise, you can try dating websites where you can be more specific about your preferences.

How do you know that blk women are non paying on EH more than any other demographic? I'd be curious about that.
 
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