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nightling is offline nightling Post #1  March 6,2010, 7:18am
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The eyes serve as conduits of information we have relied on for thousands of years. We rely on them because of their accuracy. The man who is asked to help someone move will cover his eyes with his fingers rubbing them as he answers, “yes I will help you,” when no doubt this will be an inconvenience. This blocking behavior authentically reveals how he feels even though he will assist.

And so on and such in that vein at the link below.

The Body Language of the Eyes | Psychology Today
 
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My eyes reveal that I can't see so good.
 
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Eyes will move side to side, look down, or hold still as we process information. Just ask someone, to multiply in their head 56 x 89 and watch their eyes. The cognitive load placed on them by the multiplication task will cause all sorts of eye movements or even eye closure. All we can learn from this is that the person is processing information, not that they are telling the truth or lying as some well intentioned but ill informed individuals would have you believe.
This is totally me. I look everywhere when I am thinking something through.
 
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I find this article very interesting although it does not cover the subject of attraction between people.

More often that not, when I meet someone new, especially if it is a guy I will look at them as they talk to me or I talk to them, and look at their eyes.

I find that some people lower their gaze or others hold it and look right back at me during the conversation.

What does that say? What does it mean? Am I giving off the vibe of being attracted even when I don't mean to? I tend to stare at people equally when they say something interesting as much as I will dreamily stare into a guy's eyes when I like him.
 
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Jesisi wrote :
I find this article very interesting although it does not cover the subject of attraction between people.

More often that not, when I meet someone new, especially if it is a guy I will look at them as they talk to me or I talk to them, and look at their eyes.

I find that some people lower their gaze or others hold it and look right back at me during the conversation.

What does that say? What does it mean? Am I giving off the vibe of being attracted even when I don't mean to? I tend to stare at people equally when they say something interesting as much as I will dreamily stare into a guy's eyes when I like him.
There's a section on it in Reading People, some book or other I linked a while back. Yes staring at someone can be taken as sexual interest.
 
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I did not read the article, but decided to post due to the subject matter.

Yes, the eyes "tells" a lot of what the person may be thinking, saying or even what physical action they take next.

The problem is with how an individual that is observing interprets this information.

I'll reveal some information about me. I'm Asian... and in the Asian culture you do not look into the eyes of your "betters". That is considered disrespectful. Now I was born in America, but my Mother is Asian and she brought me up within the Asian culture, but in the American society if you do not look into the eyes you are either lying to them or are deceitful in some way. This obviously caused me some problems growing up. Especially throughout my school years.

The solution was to "switch" back and forth between cultures. When at school.. I stared everyone in the eyes..lol When back at home I would revert back to the Asian "ways".

So, yes... the eyes tell a lot.. but be careful on how you interperate them.
 
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Shads wrote :
I did not read the article, but decided to post due to the subject matter.

Yes, the eyes "tells" a lot of what the person may be thinking, saying or even what physical action they take next.

The problem is with how an individual that is observing interprets this information.

I'll reveal some information about me. I'm Asian... and in the Asian culture you do not look into the eyes of your "betters". That is considered disrespectful. Now I was born in America, but my Mother is Asian and she brought me up within the Asian culture, but in the American society if you do not look into the eyes you are either lying to them or are deceitful in some way. This obviously caused me some problems growing up. Especially throughout my school years.

The solution was to "switch" back and forth between cultures. When at school.. I stared everyone in the eyes..lol When back at home I would revert back to the Asian "ways".

So, yes... the eyes tell a lot.. but be careful on how you interperate them.
The article mentions a little about this, Shads. I think the culture they specifically mention was different, but the logic was the same. I found it quite interesting.
 
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"The eyes are the windows to the soul" or so the proverb goes.

I've always been pretty good at reading cues from the eyes and have gotten better with age. I've really only been taken in once and that person was quite skilled at the grift. I did see the signs of what was actually happening, but allowed a lack of confidence in my ability to read them override my better judgement. There hasn't been a second time.
 
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Shads wrote :
The problem is with how an individual that is observing interprets this information.
Exactly right.

In some cultures if I look another man in the eyes it means I'm challenging him, while in others if I don't it means I'm being evasive or unfriendly,

The problem with all the body language books is that most of us aren't good at interpreting the signals.

If a woman smiles at me, maybe she likes me, maybe she smiles a lot, maybe she's trying to appear friendly, maybe she just got Botox, maybe she just thought of a joke... who knows?

Ditto with playing with her hair, licking her lips, or anything else.
 
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One look I did learn to recognize in a date's eyes is "You-me, jiggy in the car, now!"

Took me a half-hour to figure it out, but I finally did! OK, truth be told, I still had chicken parmesan to finish!
 
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