Had an impromptu date last nigh: dating in real is so much easier than online dating.


Reply
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
justme27 is offline justme27 Post #1  March 5,2010, 3:25pm
justme27's Avatar

There I put up a darn avatar is everyone happy! T.S. Eliot very pretentious

Veteran

Joined: Feb 2009

Somewhere in that crazy place for all the crazy people called California

Posts: 1,067

See profile

So last night I had to go to a theater performance of Shakespeare. Needless to say, I was not at all excited about watching theater. Yes, I love art, music, writing, film but not theater and yes I do love reading Shakespeare.

So I show up, as usual, an hour early. Luckily the theater is in a very nice part of town. So there were restaurants, bars, and nice little wine bar with a gallery. Being pretentious and having to use the rest room real bad, I go to the wine bar.

It was a rather nice place, empty because it was early in the evening. I order some kind of beer that I have never had before--unfortunately, I didn't get the name but it was a Belgian brew with a strong alcohol content. Yes although it is a wine bar, they had a nice selection of foreign beer.

I chat up the bartender and she and I are joking. I tell her my lack of desire to go this theater event and we laugh about theater. Her husband and her own the place and she invited me to come over on a Sunday when they have open mic night because I told her I enjoy reading poetry and doing comedy.

Well, as we are chatting each other up this very attractive girl comes in. I notice that she has a ticket and a play bill for the performance. She sits not too far from me and order some kind of wine. I decide to chat her up. It turns out that she is going alone and is single but is going because she performs with the company that puts on the play and is required to see the showing for a future performance. I tell her openly that I while I love reading Shakespeare I feel a complete dread at having to sit through a production of it. We have a little bit of a philosophical discussion on why am right and wrong about the whole feeling. Long story short, I ask if she would like to sit together during the play and afterwards come back to the wine bar and discuss it. She says sure.

We watch the play together. She is digging it, I not so much. The play ends we go back to the wine bar and once again have somewhat of a philosophical discussion about the play and everything.

However although attractive, I just didn't feel the chemistry. She was just too serious. Maybe when I was younger I would have appreciated philosophical discussion but now I find them kind of impersonal. Now with the bartender I felt total chemistry, but she was older and is married.

We both left a little bit before closing. I did not ask for her number, I just did not feel it and she probably did not either. But it was fun to have gone on a little impromptu date.

Oh, the overall point of this is that I find real life dating a lot easier than online dating.
 
  Reply With Quote
justme27 is offline justme27 Post #2  March 5,2010, 3:26pm
justme27's Avatar

There I put up a darn avatar is everyone happy! T.S. Eliot very pretentious

Veteran

Joined: Feb 2009

Somewhere in that crazy place for all the crazy people called California

Posts: 1,067

See profile

Sorry for the title to this thread. I'm just a little bit tired right now.
 
  Reply With Quote
mrflyer is offline mrflyer Post #3  March 5,2010, 7:06pm
mrflyer's Avatar

Virtuoso

Joined: Dec 2009

my computer

Posts: 2,948

See profile

So when are you hitting the nightclub scene?
 
  Reply With Quote
Nanette is offline Nanette Post #4  March 5,2010, 7:13pm
Nanette's Avatar

~ giving gentle smack-downs... vewy vewy gentle

Power Poster

Joined: Jun 2008

Posts: 7,451

See profile

I love theater, and I also agree that meeting people irl is so incredibly easy in comparison to this online rot.
 
  Reply With Quote
justme27 is offline justme27 Post #5  March 5,2010, 10:08pm
justme27's Avatar

There I put up a darn avatar is everyone happy! T.S. Eliot very pretentious

Veteran

Joined: Feb 2009

Somewhere in that crazy place for all the crazy people called California

Posts: 1,067

See profile

mrflyer wrote :
So when are you hitting the nightclub scene?
Now Mr. Flyer no need to jump to the opposite extreme. My deal is usually to go to wine bars, up-scale bars, bars with live performances (especially blues, but not jazz). I would go to a dance club if I knew a form of dance like salsa or the tengo maybe even swing dance-maybe.
 
  Reply With Quote
nophotos is offline nophotos Post #6  March 6,2010, 9:56am
nophotos's Avatar

is enjoying life

Pacesetter

Joined: Jan 2010

San Francisco

Posts: 269

See profile

justme27 wrote :
However although attractive, I just didn't feel the chemistry. She was just too serious. Maybe when I was younger I would have appreciated philosophical discussion but now I find them kind of impersonal. Now with the bartender I felt total chemistry, but she was older and is married.
I see from your other thread you are still seeing your therapist. I think this is an excellent paragraph to talk with her about.

I had to learn to be truly vulnerable. Part of emotional health is not baring my personal soul to someone I just met. So a first in depth conversation with someone will be a bit impersonal.

I used to do this a lot - there was the single, attractive, interesting and interested man and I found one thing wrong with him so I didn't have to date him. Now, if that other guy wasn't married.
Last edited by nophotos; March 8,2010 at 9:41am.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


« Do women settle on their standards? | About You | Thinking about "The Talk" w/ a Different Kinda GUY!! »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
Full figured women-how to get more out of online dating outlaw1 A Man's Point of view 9 August 14,2009 3:05pm
Is There Something Dating Articles Aren't Telling Women? outlaw1 A Man's Point of view 22 August 12,2009 8:04am
A Nerdy/Desperate Stigma to Online Dating? SpookyMulder Using eHarmony 6 August 11,2009 11:31am
is online dating a good idea? ssluvtravel Dating 10 July 4,2009 7:38pm
Murphy's laws of Online Dating! :D outlaw1 A Man's Point of view 6 May 20,2009 1:47pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“my husband died when our son was 30 months old. It still seems to be a central tenet of his relationship with the world. dragging past the cancer for the last 2 years and trying to reassure ... ” –  lada2

Join the “Has anyone lost their mother at a young age? How did it change your life?...or did it?” discussion

“What I hate is when i have said "It was nice to meet you." Then I have had the guy jump in and say "You too. I'd like to see you again." And then I am standing there looking for a way to tell him ... ” –  legend29

Join the “Saying what you mean...” discussion

“I've had the "wanna chat" message more than once.” –  Simplicity-2012

Join the “RED flags for women” discussion

“I thoroughly enjoy being an emotionally unhealthy and immature man!” –  Raw_Truth

Join the “Anyone ever try a professional matchmaker?” discussion

“i suspect he is not agonizing over it nearly as much as you are. i suffer from the stereotypical thinkking that guys are fine with separating feelings from yearnings Right up until they're not. ... ” –  D_Lion

Join the “Question on casual dating?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 8:24pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0