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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #1  February 24,2010, 12:31pm

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Happy Wednesday everybody!!

Another English lesson required...lol

So I've read posts where some say "I want A, B, C, D, etc and I wouldn't expect anything 'less'"

Now, this is not something that's necessarily can be quantified as 'less' but something just different....and technically 'less' means well...not as good or not as..*insert whatever* which in many cases the preferences are subjective and saying it's 'less' would have negative connotation to it...

(just an EXAMPLE ok...): I want my gf to be 5'4", slim-to-average-weight-height-proportionate, never married, younger than 34 and no kids....I will not want anything less. Does this mean that if she had been married, 36 years old and/or chubby and 5'1" she's less? I don't think so. Is this why people are extremely picky because anything 'different' than what their original criteria is considered 'less' then they consider it 'settling with less' vs finding the perfect original list.

I'd say the better wording would be I wouldn't want anything different....then, you might be more open to good surprises.

Maybe it's the English language, maybe it's that word...maybe I need to wear a helmet and a bullet proof vest, I don't know

Just musin'....and not to point at any specific people...y'all be nice ya hear!

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cardguy is offline cardguy Post #2  February 24,2010, 12:46pm
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I don't see anything wrong with the "anything less" wording...sound like another case of political correctness run amok.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #3  February 24,2010, 12:49pm

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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #4  February 24,2010, 12:55pm

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I agree, to me the "nothing less" comment is akin to a backhanded compliment. It is widely used as describing what I believe I am worthy of. So if you fit their toss list it would mean you are beneath them.

There are so many better ways to speak of your needs. I wonder how many have studied speaking in the positive, negative and neutral. Too many times people choose the negative, makes me wonder if that is easier or just more natural. Instead of nothing less how about this is what I need. This would say this is the compliment to my personality or physical need. Not saying bad in relation to X but bad in relation to me.

Who knows. I stink at English.
 
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Mokkesofie is offline Mokkesofie Post #5  February 24,2010, 1:51pm
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Can_I_just_be_Jo wrote :
Instead of nothing less how about this is what I need.
This is what I need:

Someone with a pulse
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #6  February 24,2010, 1:59pm

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Mokkesofie wrote :
This is what I need:

Someone with a pulse
I got a pulse!
Last edited by PY_2; February 24,2010 at 1:59pm. Reason: I'll show you my pulse if you show me your tattoo!
 
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Mokkesofie wrote :
This is what I need:

Someone with a pulse
Pulses are overrated.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #8  February 24,2010, 3:41pm

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StuckOnYou wrote :
Pulses are overrated.
 
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nightling is offline nightling Post #9  February 24,2010, 4:03pm
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Anything different correctly expresses the meaning better. Do I get a cookie?
 
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AsianFusion is offline AsianFusion Post #10  February 24,2010, 5:38pm
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What about "less desirable", PY?

Okay, do I get my cookie now?
 
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